Do you ever meet someone and are bummed because they are completely unavailable but in another life you could have had a connection?

[Anonymous]

For example, just had an event for work, and I think there could have really been something between this woman and I... I wonder if she thought so too considering she sent me a completely unnecessary/personal follow-up about how the rest of my trip was/if I made it back safely. Our convo there wasn't exactly "professional" in tone anyway. I don't know how much to pursue a friendship here. She is married with children, so she's not available, and I am not going to get what I need emotionally in my life out of this. Maybe I'll just leave it up to her. She'll probably vanish like most other people do on me anyway, but oh well... C'est la vie..

[HollyK21]

You don’t do yourself any favors by creating this air of mystery around the situation with verbiage like “I’ll just leave it up to her” “I think there could’ve really been something, I wonder if she thought so too”. This is not someone you should be mentally leaving the door open for whatsoever as any sort of prospect, because not only is she married but why would you want a relationship that you acquired through cheating?


In the hypothetical sense sure you could rationalize it all you’d want, saying you don’t know or owe him anything, she mustn’t be happy and you want your chance so bad screw they other guy, etc etc. None of that would take away from the fact that you’d lose her how you got her. But Cest La Vie, right? Come on, don’t do that. You’re better off not questioning that situation anymore and moving on from it. If she is the good woman you think she is, then she only reached out because she enjoyed a friendly conversation and you’ve made more out of it than it was intended. If she’s a cheater and a liar well, you’ll get your “happy” ending.

[MontBlanc]

It happens , you feel a spark, but timing or circumstances make it off limits.

Chemistry doesn’t mean it should be pursued, especially when someone is married. Her message likely shows kindness, not intent.

The real question is whether this would give you what you actually need emotionally. From what you said, it wouldn’t.

Sometimes a connection is just a reminder you can feel one not an invitation to act on it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Most women over 40 look pretty gross. And I'm too old to date under that age. So my dating days are likely behind me.

[Asker]

um, what? If a woman takes care of herself there are PLENTY very attractive beyond that age.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy feelings and keep your heart out of red‑flag territory, sexy brain included. 😉

You’re describing “almost-lover in a parallel universe” energy, and yeah, that can sting. Chemistry doesn’t care about rings or kids. But integrity does.

She’s married with children. That means any deep emotional bond with her easily slides into emotional affair territory, which will leave you starving and guilty, not fulfilled. Enjoy the compliment of the connection, respond politely, keep it light and clearly professional, and don’t feed it with late-night heart-spill messages.

Let this be proof you *can* connect, not proof you’re doomed to be ghosted. The right emotionally available woman will give you this same vibe without the wedding band.

[NoDecision]

Reminds me of this song.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/-R0T_gNFwd4

[Nikki1989]

That is some fantasy world you have created for yourself.