How would you feel if the person you are in a relationship with for a couple of years now wants the relationship to be open?

[nik_the_cur]

[OlderAndWiser]

I would immediately end the relationship, make her move out if we were living together, and go absolutely no contact.

[OlderAndWiser]

That request means she already has someone else, but wants to keep you as her safety net in case Mr. Wonderful is not so wonderful. Agree to that and you have lost all self respect.

[nik_the_cur]

I kinda did and stayed in that relationship for months

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you trust her?

[nik_the_cur]

I mean I knew she must've lept with others. It was an open relationship. She never gave me any details whatsoever

[OlderAndWiser]

You are okay with it being open? Does that mean that you also had sex with other women?

[nik_the_cur]

I didn't meet any other women during that period. I wasn't fully ok as I was kinda jealous but wanted to respect what she wants kinda

[OlderAndWiser]

Is she still having sex with other guys? Do you two live together?

[nik_the_cur]

We are no longer in a relationship but some thoughts are still in my head. When we lived together, sometimes she went on with her girl friends but when she came late, although she didn't want to give me details, she couldn't deny that she had sex with someone. One time even her mouth still smelled and tasted like seven when I kissed her

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't you feel horribly disrespected?

[nik_the_cur]

A bit yeah. But she was telling me that on an emotional level I am the best

[OlderAndWiser]

You were used and she was laughing at you behind your back. Do you still see her?

[nik_the_cur]

Was she really? No we have all contact. She moved on and we stopped talking

[OlderAndWiser]

Learn a lesson from this. From the moment she asked for an open relationship, she stopped feeling any obligation to you and she was preparing to move on. While it slowly imploded, she used you and got as much from you as she could, and probably told her best friend what an idiot you are. You should have immediately ended it and gone no contact.

[nik_the_cur]

Maybe. I thought she wanted a more nuanced relationship based on mutual understanding of physical desires

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't want monogamy?

[nik_the_cur]

I mean I want to but that was complicated because I wanted her to be happy

[OlderAndWiser]

You were trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole.

[aceleon]

immediately dump her sorry ass and never look back.

she wants to cheat. she likely already did, the end of the debate.

she has to find someone else to make her cuckold.

[Abbycado]

That would be the end of the relationship. Simple.

[nik_the_cur]

Yeah but like how would you feel about that or the other person?

[Abbycado]

It is a 100% dealbreaker. I would be disgusted that my partner would even suggest such a thing.

[Clyde_123]

I'd break up with him immediately

[nik_the_cur]

But how would you feel about them?

[Clyde_123]

I would think he is disgusting for wanting us to have sex with others. I would think am I not good enough? Do you want more?

[nik_the_cur]

My mind was in similar places actually

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship stuff and make your love life a lot less confusing 💋

If my partner of years suddenly wanted an open relationship, I’d feel hurt, insecure, and suspicious. Big red flag if it’s out of nowhere. It usually means emotional distance, boredom, or someone else already in mind.

Either you both genuinely want non‑monogamy, or it slowly kills the bond. Never agree just to avoid losing them.

[bobalife]

Bye lol

[nik_the_cur]

But what feelings or thoughts would cross your mind, if any?

[Anonymous]

Threesome (FFM)

[EchoD]

Haha I like where your heads at

[nik_the_cur]

Why would you prefer another female instead of another male though?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m bisexual and I prefer women

[Dikkachu]

Threesome hehehe

[nik_the_cur]

What kind?

[Dikkachu]

2guys and my girlfriend in her mouth and her pu$$y if possible her butthole too

[Anonymous]

That's disgusting