Is walking away from intense love sometimes the only way to choose a healthy one?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever been loved deeply, almost selfishly by someone, yet still chosen to walk away because their love felt intense but not healthy for your future?

In the end, they admit you’re special person, that you deserve better.

You know they’re not cruel person, just loving in a way that isn't right.

So you let go, not from lack of care,
but from clarity and the courage to choose
someone who’s right for you.

[Levin]

I feel like there's more context to this.

Are you saying they're needy and co-dependent? Because that is problematic on many fronts.

I've chosen to walk away from people due to unequal power dynamics. ie I'm invested in someone, yet I'm kind of used in the sense of she talks to me for hours a day. I fucked that one off.

At the end of the day, if it doesn't feel good for you, then you have to do what feels right.

But intense love doesn't seem like the issue. Intense love is a wonderful thing. Or the purest of loves. Perhaps a platonic love even. So yes, intense love means something else in this instance, me thinks.

[jshm2]

No. Don't be daft.

That's like saying "If you're really hungry, then only choose the light snack"

Unless you're mentally/emotionally/socially deficient, then you should be able to work through such things.

[DishLady]

Yeah. I had something v intense going with a guy that was also just super toxic. We were both trapped in a “black hole” sort of love that just wasn’t healthy — way too stressful. I don't know if we’ll ever be able to just sit in a room normally. For now I’m just staying as far away from him as possible.

[Anonymous]

intense love is not an issue but if they get kinda crazy, stalkerish or have unreasonable expectations then yes, it would be an issue

Some people don't like intense love because they themselves have mental problems. Some people run away when things get serious

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle love, desire, and red flags without losing your heart in the process.

Yes, walking away from intense love can be the healthiest choice ever. Some love feels like fireworks, but it’s unstable, anxious, or consuming. That’s not chemistry, that’s emotional chaos.

Choosing to leave that for something calm, safe, and consistent isn’t “settling,” it’s emotional maturity. That’s you refusing lovebombing, instability, and mixed signals, and choosing a partner who’s actually compatible with your nervous system and long-term future.

Intensity fades. Emotional safety ages like fine wine, gorgeous. 💋

[Nikki1989]

Sometimes you have to destroy in order to rebuild. It is one of the harsh realities of life.

[slatyb]

I have not, but knowing what I know now after a disastrous marriage to a narcissist, I don't think I would have any trouble walking away.

[molonski2]

Sounds like complete and utter intense B shite to me , sorry it's a ludicrous comment.

[Phoenix98]

I've never been loved that way by anyone so I can't really relate to that sort of situation.

[DextroShade]

Sounds like

[Anonymous]

No but that sounds like a good plot for a romance novel

[msc545]

Intensity in love is also frequently unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Wow that's the biggest bunch of horseshit I've ever heard. You're letting your fear of commitment and fear of someone loving you get the better of you

[Hopeless30]

This is the best stupid things you can do in life...

[MusicTokuXX]

What is intense love? What if you would die for someone? Is that bad?

[NathanDavis]

no... none of that would make sense to me