I think my boyfriend wanted to kiss me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

This is my first relationship and I (17) really like him (18), but it hasn't even been a month and we see each other so often (not that I mind). Anyways just before Valentine's day, we were in the car together and he went

"Have I ever told you, I.. blank you?"

I knew what he was gonna say so I kind of laughed a bit and told him not to say it. not now. cuz like isn't it too fast to say something like that? I'm the type of person who find it hard to believe when people tell me how much they adore me. Not to mention, once again, IT'S ONLY BEEN A MONTH. I don't know.

When Valentine came around, he finally said it. And I think I shut down immediately when he did, cuz I felt nothing. I adore this man and I want to see him smile, but I'm too scared of making promises that I myself can't guarantee to be true. I did ask him a bunch of time if he thinks we're going too fast, though as always he'd answer with a quick no. Maybe it's because I'm comparing our relationship with others and I'm genuinely scared I might lose him because we're going to fast so I overthink it? What should I do?

[SueShe]

Yes, it is very important that you take your time and that you don't rush into things that you may regret later.

One month is way too early to really know about your deepest feelings and it will takes more than just one month to be certain that you are with the right person.

What do you know about him? Has he really told you everything about himself? People tend to hide the important things because they don't want to ruin something that is just building up.

Also, young men in that age group are ruled by their testosterone and it is not really true love that made him want to say those words but rather the prospect that he can become more intimate with you. Those are very distinctive and separate issues.

Keep your distance for the time being until you are definitely sure.

[Asker]

He has told me about himself, I've met his little sister, but that's just it.

[SueShe]

He has just given you the information you need to get but certainly not everything about himself. Usually, people withhold really important stuff like criminal records, addictions and the like.

I am not stating that he is a criminal or an addict but just want you to know that the dark secrets are not to be available so soon.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the advice

[slatyb]

"Scared I might lose him"... Don't be scared of losing someone. If someone leaves, they weren't for you. Just be your usual lovely self. It's too much work being someone else.

[Asker]

thank you

[Avicenna]

tell him how you feel

[Asker]

thank you

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to untangle messy heart feelings and make love a little less confusing and a lot more fun 💋

You’re not broken, you’re just careful. That’s actually healthy. Him saying “I love you” at 1 month is fast, but not a red flag by itself. You don’t need to say it back until you feel it.

Tell him calmly: you really like him, you’re slower emotionally, and you don’t want to fake big words. If he truly cares, he’ll respect your pace.

Your job isn’t to perform love, it’s to grow into it honestly. Take it slow, enjoy the butterflies, and let your feelings catch up, beautiful 😏