I become nervous when talking to people with high social status, why?

[Anonymous]

so I had a conversation with this person recently and I've realized, that I was pretty nervous despite him not even being my love interest. I think it's because of my rather low self confidence, but socialising with high status people (or literally everyone except people with low status) seems so difficult to me. I always freeze and I'm unable to talk about myself,

I'm trying to ask questions, so I don't have to talk at all, but I catch myself not listening and just thinking and waiting to ask the follow up question. In fact, not talking and having to listen makes me nervous as well. I want to overcome this and ik everyone is saying, just be present. I know that, but I don't know how to do that, how to get myself to be present in the moment.

[ohsheeT]

Okay, here's the thing when you look at somebody and you start talking to them, you put them or you put yourself on their level, no matter what it is and talk to them as if you're talking to your best friend, what you need to really do is start understanding love and start loving yourself first. That is the key to it all. Because when you love yourself, you are on everybody's level, it doesn't matter. If it's the President or the garbage truck driver, it does not matter when you love yourself. You have boundaries and you have boundaries, you have understanding, you are just exactly like them. Excep.\n T for they have a title because they were given the title or they give themselves a title, so get your own title called love called confidence called respect towards yourself and let it happen, just be yourself, but you have to have that confidence and belief in yourself, and the only way to do that is just do it feel. It understand it, become it. Nobody is better than you nobody. Nobody is worse off than you nobody

Look, when we are born. We are all given a gift. That gift is choice

WE GET TO CHOOSE WHO WE WANT TO BE IN LIFE BY THE THINGS THAT WE SAY AND THAT WE DO. THAT MEANS YOU ARE YOU YOU ARE WHOEVER YOU WANT TO BE AND BECOME IT? BELIEVE IT OWN IT

If you think somebody is better than you.\n Then you have no chance because you're always going to be under their thumb. You are just as good as everybody in this room, and you can prove that just by who you are and what you do and how happy you are, do you understand that most of those? People that you get nervous around are angry people. They don't even like themselves. They're miserable. You have more things going on for you than they ever will


So the moment you start talking to somebody, you choose who you want to be and become that person and own it and love it.\n And that's who you will become, and then once you become that person the next time you talk to those people, they'll be doing what you did are you were doing? Because you will be projecting yourself as this powerful loving , caring person without even trying it would just happen because it's you , it comes from the inside

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's you're nervous system saying "hey, this is important, pay attention"

For me personally and maybe others too there's this subconscious thought of "this person is socially high status, I don't know how or why, I don't even know what they care about, what they're paying attention to."

And in reality that's the whole challenge.

So this is what helped me

1. What kind of status do they have?

Are they just really popular? Are they very successful in the same industry as you? Maybe everyone who hangs around this person gets to have fun experiences. But the two categories are business or casual.

2. Will leaving an impression on this person help me?

Do you even care about hanging out with someone who can open your social circle? Is it about upping your reputation? Can they realistically help you in any way?

3. Now with those first two answers you know exactly how much you should care and that if you fuck it up you kinda didn't really lose anything.

4. Most high status people care about one of the following: authenticity or access to people/places/things.

If you don't immediately know what access they want that you can offer, go straight to authenticity.

[Nikki1989]

You have a mix of low self-confidence, overthinking, and the pressure you feel when you're around people you perceive as having "higher status," which is probably 100% false.

[Abbycado]

Just a question... what makes them "high status" in your opinion?

[Asker]

being more social, having better social skills, more confidence

[Abbycado]

I think with a lot of people, it is just down to keep getting out there and socializing. The more you do it, the more comfortable you get.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to make your love life and social life feel way less scary and way more fun 😉

You’re not weird for this at all. High-status people can trigger insecurity like crazy. Your brain goes into “don’t mess up” mode, which kills presence. Try this: before talking to them, remind yourself, “Their status doesn’t make my value lower.” Focus on one simple thing: reacting to what they say, not planning the next line. Treat it like a chill practice round, not an exam. Confidence comes from reps, not perfection, babe 💋

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Even on the highest throne in the world, you’re still just sitting on your own butt."

"All the world's a stage"

Perhaps you're intimidated because you project something associated to status, but as quoted above, these are just projections and appearances. Highest spheres, like any sphere at all, is tribal. Each tribe using their own set of social rules, it's normal to feel alienated in circles you're not familiarized with. It's expected that you react this way, it's part of how tribes proceed to exclude/include their members.

[Friendlybro79]

This is really genuine of you to share this and like a lot of things, practice. Continue having more conversations and be ok with being a little uncomfortable. Nobody is perfect or great at conversation but you’ll get better when you interact more with people because we all learn from each other. Also, be yourself and be confident in sharing your interests and why you love them. People love to get to know who you are and why. This might be a good starting point. Good luck and don’t worry you’re doing great.

[ChiTown33]

You're young. Just remember they put there pants on one leg at a time, same as you. They breathe the same air. And they are mortal. Besides have a few dollars to a few million more than you there really isn't anything special about them.👍

[Anonymous]

You just have to learn to not care about it.

[LiamS95]

It's reallh more of a perceived fear or nevousness possibly due to a lack of self confidence.

[robocop666]

Do more of it ti get used to it. face your fears.

[WhitneySnow]

Just treat them like anybody else

[Anonymous]

Because they have higher status 👔

[Opinion Owner]

I hope I was most helpful 😌

[Mariogirl09]

Just talk to her 🙄