Have you ever been in a desperate love with someone you knew you will never have?

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What did you do?

[Gobbyjobby52]

I wouldn't say it was love because we never got into a relationship with them but i guess if you mean by really liking someone i couldn't have or be with then yes.

When i was 14 i liked this girl in my year who i think may have liked me just as an oddball friend of hers in the background, from ages 10 to about 14 i had a very big crush on her and didn't speak to her because i was afraid of the consequences (both the good and bad). She moved schools when i was 14 and i sent her a big text message at 15 confessing my infatuation with her and she more or less blocked and reported this fake profile i used to send it to her which was tragic but funny in hindsight, we're Facebook friends now but I've accepted she's moved on and a bit of her still lives in me.

The second one here sounds alarming but i didn't know first-hand how young she was vs her biological appearance, i was 16-19 at the time she was 4-5 years younger. before i learnt by my family that she was as young as she was when i was 19 i would spend a lot of time near this skatepark (Just so this doesn't sound creepy, i first met her there when i went to use my skatepark there at 16 (its was phase). She didn't like me in that way and would make fun of me and laugh at me (in a bad way) only when i was put on anti-0pscyhjotics at 18 did i realise she wasn't flirting and that she was really take the mick and being immature and a bit cruel. When i was 19 she tried to talk to me when i went to this event but i dodged her and was short and she was polite (I guess she matured a bit emotionally) Last i saw of her she gave my keys back to the driver to give to me when i took the bus home when i was medded up at 22 (which i was surprised by) even though she is now legal she has a man now so any hope of anything would not only be creepy historically but unlikely given our interactions.

When i was 20 i went to university and i took a fancy to this girl in my dorm and i was off my meds at the time I think she found me intriguing to begin with and was very friendly (some of it was from no-fapping which gave me some of that edge to help out socially) but as the week past and i wasn't getting enough food and stress built up i started to spiral and stalk her which led to security being called by her who had to take me out to calm down, as i was also saying some very esoteric and disturbing things to her which my mum said "spooked her". This one felt like true heartbreak as i went through a bit of grief and she happened to kiss another roommate guy who said he was rooting for me Infront of me when no one else was around, while i was in psychosis.

Lastly of all there was this girl my age who used to volunteer at this charity when i was 22 and she seemed to give all the signs of slight affection, she said she was happy single by others so i felt like i should pursue which led her to eventually send a message back saying we were not compatible and even being friends would be no good for her months later after after i explained why i acted so weirdly through text when she was around when i spoke to this volunteer i work with to this day about this liking i took to her - when she found out she never came back and later said i made her feel paranoid at the time. I really though there was something here but i guess i was dead wrong.

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Wow.. too many heartaches.. how are you now?

[Gobbyjobby52]

Thanks for understanding man. I try not to think about them too much each one and do things like exercise and supplement to help keep a distance between each in and just look it like a antiqie museum than a load of what didn't work. Not gonna lie though I do feel cynical after all this and have some issues connecting with women and vulnerability.

[Lliam]

I couldn't be desperately in love with someone unless we were in a relationship. I never longed for someone I didn't have a chance with.

The closest thing was with one of my girlfriends. I met Petra when I was 36 and she was 30. We wound up living together for two years. She was the first girlfriend I loved with my heart and soul and she loved me.
I thought she was perfect. Her looks, voice, mannerisms, clothing and grooming style, personality and values were my ideal. She was also hypersexual, orgasmic, super adept and made me feel like a sexual god.

But, as it turned out, there were reasons why we couldn't have made it as life-long partners. The reasons are too hard to explain.

We wound up separating even though we loved each other. She moved out of state. I have never experienced greater pain in my life. It took me over a year to pull myself together and get on with life.

I met my future wife a year later and married her two years after we met. She is wonderful. We have have been happily married now for almost 30 years, had a LOT of fun, and built a wonderful life together. I love her deeply. But I will always be grateful to Petra, will always love her and will never forget her.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode all that messy, beautiful relationship drama we go through together 😏

Yeah, I’ve been there. Fell hard for someone I knew I’d never have. I didn’t chase, didn’t lovebomb, didn’t beg. I let myself feel it, then slowly pulled back. Poured that energy into work, hobbies, family, and my own glow-up.

Unrequited love hurts, but it can be a powerful reset button if you let it.

[Shy-boy53]

Oh definitely but never crossed the line of her being my best friend , her friendship meant too much to me

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And? Still friends and still in love with her?

[Shy-boy53]

Totally, that will never change

[MrChinaski]

Love is something built over time by the actions of two people working together in each other's interests.

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Wow !! Not always

[Anonymous]

Why can’t u be with them

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Because you are not a social match to them..

[Opinion Owner]

They belong to a lower rank of social group?

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Nop the opposite my dear

[Opinion Owner]

Why do u feel so?

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PM me

[Opinion Owner]

Why are u desperately in love with them

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Does love need a reason?

[Opinion Owner]

How are they better or u not a social match

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message me

[AgentG111]

Yes but I was young like junior high.