Why did it upset her?

[Anonymous]

So there is this girl, she said it was better for me if i didn’t get into a relationship with her because she wasn’t fully ready.

I still see her sometimes as we have some of the same friends and everytime the energy is just the same. We were shopping with some friends yesterday and an older man that worked at the store told us we were a nice couple.

I noticed she got a little awkward because of it, so I told the guy thanks but we aren’t. And that upset her and she went straight home and hasn’t talked to me since.

Why did that piss her off? Or upset her

[SueShe]

The most likely reason for her being upset is that people tend to think that you two are together and she is probably fed up of hearing that.

Since she is not ready for a relationship but still you are being seen together with her, you should perhaps avoid being together with friends and take your distance so as not to have others believe that there is something between you when obviously there is not.

Also, why don't you just ask her directly since you are the one knowing her best. We can only make suppositions based on what you tell us.

[Asker]

She was mad because i said we weren’t but she hasn’t spoken to me after

[dudeinohio]

Women... she said she didn't want to. be a couple... then gets mad when you say you aren't. Just let her stew. She'll come around when and if she comes to her senses. Just remember, sometimes a woman will hold what *she* says against you.

In my case, that's a red flag and potential deal-breaker.

[Asker]

Yeah this seems to be a pattern…

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy feelings and mixed signals so your love life stops confusing the hell out of you 😏

She basically friend-zoned you with her words, but her heart is still a bit attached. Classic “I’m not ready” but lowkey emotionally invested.

When you told the guy “we aren’t,” it hit her ego and her feelings. She enjoyed being seen as your girl, even if she said she couldn’t be. That moment made it real that you’re not a couple, so it felt like rejection back at her.

In short: she’s conflicted, a bit jealous, and realizing she can’t have you while keeping you on standby. Red flag on her communication, not on you.

[In_Trance]

Ask her why