How do I tell my boyfriend if he wants to keep me he needs to earn more money?

[purplepoppy]

My boyfriend says he hates his job, it's stressful with long work hours. I explained I love my expensive life style and therefore he needs to keep working.

In fact I'm thinking if he wants to keep me he needs to earn more. How do I explain that to him?

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear you base a relationship off of money and not from the heart , The fact that your boyfriend works long hours and it still isn’t enough for you , is unfortunately going to end your relationship with him , unless he is a desperate sucker that doesn’t realize he isn’t truly being loved by you , he is just being used by you , so if he was a wise man , his best bet is to kick your ass to the curb where you belong so you can find yourself another desperate sucker. I kick girls’ like you to the curb all the time because I save myself for a girl that loves me from the heart not from what’s inside my wallet , a girl that brings value into my life , not misery , A relationship is supposed to be 2 people working together as a team not one sided , so best of luck to you for having that selfish mindset that money is the only way you will stay with someone , you will never experience true love and before you know it , no one will want your selfish ass period

[OneViewpoint]

My suggestion would be to go get yourself a successful meal ticket and keep the current boyfriend as a side piece to satisfy you while your workaholic husband is bending his executive assistant over his desk at 8:30 PM or introducing the flight attendant on his private jet to the 7 mile high club. Or you could just fuck the pool boy and your tennis pro along with your friend's husbands. That's more or less the way it works in the New York Financial Services world of Private Equity, Hedge Funds, and Investment Banking. But be aware it also comes with a heavy dose of alcohol, cocaine, and antidepressants. And then there's the final crash when it all comes tumbling down and you're left looking back at your choices.

[RandomGirl42]

Send him a direct link to this question while he's at work. And add in that he should prolly put in some over time while he's there.

[electromagnetic]

Tell him “if you wanna keep me, you need to make more money” Be sure to add some sparkle sparkle so he knows you’re being serious

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle love, red flags, and everything in between. 😉

I’ll be blunt: this is a huge relationship red flag, but not from him… from you. If you love your “expensive lifestyle” more than his well-being, that’s not love, that’s transactional.

If money matters that much, date someone already in your desired income bracket instead of pressuring him to burn out. Don’t dress it up as romance. Be honest with yourself and with him, even if that means ending things.

[RandomGirl42]

Oh, STFU, Brad! And go get a real job!

[coachTanthony]

Look at Brad throwing the smoke ha ha ha

[ohsheeT]

Yes I dont understand when parents are raising a male, how come they don't teach sons this?
It should be a universal understanding or a rule that all boys grow up with this kind of knowledge

[AviatorTom]

Every woman has the most important thing to convince a guy... it starts with V...

... her VOICE

[Chazmatazz269]

😂😂

[RavVid]

I think start gently and explain to him you are a Queen who really needs Princess treatment.

If he doesn't get it, then explain you are the table and the prize.

Given he doesn't get a second job at this point, I'd suggest putting some Hoe_Math videos on his feed which will explain hypergamy to him and point out he is almost a non-person unless he picks up his game.

Be careful to explain, calmly and reasonably, it is nothing personal; it's just basic biology that is inescapable for us all.

That should bring him to his senses.

[madhatters4]

you go ahead and just say it

but i'll be honest if my wife said i need to keep working a job i hate, that is stressful and exhausting hours just so she can live her "expansive life style" ... I'd tell her I may quit my job out of spite and if she wants to leave she can go.

[Still-alive]

Tell him if he gambles his life savings in Vegas and wins big he can have you forever.

extra points if he can imitate ol Blue Eyes here

https://www.youtube.com/embed/X69P_Vce9vw

[Bbblittle]

But you see, @purplepoppy if he makes more money than you... The tables will turn. He won't find you interesting as much anymore... He'll have other options... So if he does that... You'll need to up your game immediately afterwards.

There's a lot of guys who focus primarily on their income and once they make a lot of money... We'll look at you and see how much you are *really worth, not the imaginary (I'm worth a 6 figure man type confidence).. So after he makes the money... You'll have to do what it takes for him to NOT leave you.

It goes full circle here

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Just tell him you don't respect or like him haha.

Be like "hun look, you see that TV over there? That means more to me than you. That kitchen counter top, if I have to look at you AND that, this isn't gonna work. It's one or the other"

[Crankor]

If you expect a guy to pay for your expensive lifestyle then tryout won't be finding love of any sort. Thats also a pretty childish way of thinking. Its fine to have a preferred lifestyle but if you can't afford it on your own then it makes no sense for you to blame it on the guy

[Anonymous]

Tell him that it all boils down to the fact that he isn't going to get any more sex unless he gives you even more money, and you don't care if that makes you a prostitute. And if he can't make the money, there are probably a few other guys around who would pay to have sex with you.

[fish5505_87]

Did not expect this one from you. FYI

Just tell him, you do not care that he is miserable, and that his long hours mean that you don't have to spend as much time with him. Also, because he's miserable and tired he won't be in the mood to, god forbid, have sex with you! Easily explain that your happiness is his happiness!

See, easy peezy!

[msc545]

You probably don't explain that to him at all if you are smart and want to keep him. If you insist on explaining it, then be prepared to start looking for a new boyfriend. You probably should do that anyway and spare your current boyfriend the torture with this one. If you really want an expensive lifestyle, I suggest you go out and earn your own money and buy your own stuff.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

You see, that's the problem with modern feminism making your gender so entitled that you're now parodying g@g questions whereas it is men's prerogative. No wonder why fertility rate is declining in Minneapolis.

[Ariesman81]

I suppose you could just start putting price tags on your titties. Left one... life insurance. Right one... New car.

Put a tag over your mouth that says "Trip to Tahiti"... and watch him never book a trip to Tahiti.😂

[pierre7i]

I reckon it'd be worth every cent I'd have to. provide @purplepoppy because to be your boyfriend would be an ongoing exciting/beautiful sexual adventure, every day (and night !)

[Larry30]

It sounds to me like nature has already taken its course. One of your huge problems is that you are neurologically bonded to him because of having sex. This makes you into a relationship slave and that's why you're conflicted.

[loveslongnails]

Do him a favor and just break up with him now. You're going to eventually because he'll never make enough to satisfy you, and even if he does, he deserves better.

[Levin]

Hun, you need to kick his ass to the curb.

You worth more than that deadbeat!

[Drumlin2001]

Do him a favour and leave. Go get your own job to pay for your lifestyle

[Shiprex]

You don't.
You set him free by saying you're too much of a gold digger for his lifestyle.

[exitseven]

start spending more money on yourself, he will take the hint.

[Anonymous]

Just come right out and tell him that you're a gold digger and that you don't love him as much as you love his money.

[Valso]

If money is all that matters to you, better don't tell him anything, you don't deserve him.

[LiamJHayden]

Just let him know that many suitors are in queue so he'd better shape up.

[Chazmatazz269]

Send him a bill. 🤣🤣🤣

[LC75LC71]

By perfecting the act of moving out at the same time.

[Sal_Monella]

How much does he earn now, and how much do you want him to earn?

[zagor]

Oh Poppy you're trolling again. We know you don't have a boyfriend.

[Surely]

Confess that you are a Gold Digger and you don’t have enough gold!

[Jeff51]

I'd say have fun. No one tells me what to do.

[Anonymous]

We'll. If you want him to earn more to keep you then you should improve in bed. Suck him to wake him. Eat his ass if he wants.

[Anonymous]

How does he explain to you that if you love your expensive lifestyle so much then you need to get off your ass and get a job

[MereAnarchy]

The only sure way to change a person is to change the person.

[robocop666]

say it like that. does he spend lots of money on your dates? are you demanding?

[MidnightRivers]

💀 the rage bait is real in the comments

[Staximus]

Now you're just trolling

[LiamS95]

Are you saying you want to be a kept woman?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Tell him he must earn more to keep you.

[zombiewoof]

start charging for his good times

[krin_m]

Talk to him and give him some incentive!