Why do I keep attracting abusive people into my life?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

It's the places you go, it's the aura that you have around you.\nYou look for Bad Boys.\nIt's in everything that you do

You project yourself in a certain way, certain manner
You communicate in a certain way
and you have to change everything

Do you have a certain type of guy that you look for where do you meet them?

It's everything that you do
So change.\nIt all up where different clothes change , your attitude , change the type of guy that you go out with

And then when you go out with the guy is that what you talk about
attracting abusive guys. And what they do to you. . If you are stop
because if you're doing all the above then you need to change everything about you and stop talking about it.

[Anonymous]

Was your mom or someone you cared for in an abusive relationship? Of so than chances are that’s where incomes from. No one is out there seeking an abusive partner, but there’s certain vibes that one puts off that draws in these type of people. So unless you get professional help to learn to recognize ize these patterns to stop it, chances are you’ll always meet someone like that.

[Nikki1989]

Being a target for abusive behaviour is never a reflection of your worth, but it is often a reflection of your "programming" or the signals you’ve been taught to overlook. Change your mindset.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love, dodge red flags, and find something actually healthy for your heart.

You don’t “deserve” abusive people, but patterns usually mean something inside you is unhealed. Abusers sniff out people who over-explain, over-give, ignore red flags, or fear being alone. Trauma bonds, low self-worth, or growing up around chaos can normalize it.

Therapy, boundaries, slowing down before falling in love, and walking away at the first disrespect change who you attract—and who you tolerate.

[OneViewpoint]

That's an excellent question to ask yourself.

• How good are you at recognizing abusive people up front?
• How do you deal with them when you recognize them?
• Do you have conscious boundaries and do you enforce them?
• Do you fear being alone a little (or a lot) too much?

You can be a doormat or you can take charge of your life. It's a choice. Quiet control, not reactionary outbursts.

[exitseven]

My uncle the cop used to say that the sadists always find the masochists. This is a question you need to ask yourself.

[Daytoday79]

It happens to a lot of folks, trick is to know when to cut them off

[slatyb]

Everyone attracts them. You let them stay.

[Anonymous]

Bad luck maybe?

[LC75LC71]

You dig the bad boys?

[In_Trance]

The law of attraction states "like attracts like"

[Pterodon]

Maybe birds of a feather

[Anonymous]

I keep wondering why i do the same

[jahaims]

Prey is easy to spot