If a partner moves in, would you allow them to redecorate the home? If yes, what were the results?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Though I've already decided I want to remain single anyway and don't want to share a living space with anyone, this is one of the things I've never wanted to deal with, lol. I am very particular about my home, and like it a certain way. I've hated change since I was a child, especially pertaining to my living space. Growing up, when I would complain about changes my parents made to the home, they would tell me, "When you get your own home, you can make these decisions," so I very much looked forward to having my own home and having it the way I want, without having any unnecessary changes forced upon me. So, once I got that space, I've never wanted someone to come in and try to change it. This isn't to say that I don't think couples should compromise on this, though. I'm just saying why I don't, and this is just one of many reasons I don't want anyone to live with me, lol. I also prefer a very "dated" look, which most people aren't fond of, but I'm not a fan of the modern styles and don't find them cozy. I like to preserve my retro home instead, and do not want anyone coming in and expecting to modernize it. I've already gotten enough unsolicited advice to do so as it is. So, it's a no for me, though if I did want to share a living space with someone, I'd think it was only fair that we both got equal share in how to decorate. I just love having the place to myself, though.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Yep. I would.

Actually I have allowed it already. At 22, my 23 year old boyfriend moved in with me, he brought his own dishes, furniture and blankets or tablecloths.

I was happy to allow him feel at home whichever way he liked. I loved that boy so much. It’s a fond memory of mine.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I'm very particular about how I want things in my place. If they're moving in with me, they have to know it's gonna be primarily my style. I've talked my past partners about that, and they were all cool with it. They trusted my sense of aesthetic and even asked for tips when it comes to dressing. However, if we're both moving into a new place together, and both footing half the bill, it's obviously their right to decorate half at minimum. I would still have a lot to say about it, because as I said... I'm very particular. I love boho aesthetic.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Yeah I've seen this play out before and I've thought about how I'd handle it.

I'm divorced with a large house I kept. If I ever remarried and we ended up living in my house it would be "MY" house. I get that. At a minimum, I'd have to allow her to do a clean sweep and go through the process of redecorating alongside her to make it "OUR" house. Our history. Or, I'd more likely sell this house and find a new house that we both choose and decorate based on location and lifestyle priorities.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship dynamics and make love life less confusing and more fun 😏

If my partner moved in, I’d absolutely let her redecorate. It’s not a museum, it’s our home. When couples do this, the results are usually telling: collaboration = green flag, power struggle = red flag.

Best setups happen when both tastes blend. Your place should look like “us,” not just “me.”

VIVANT · Answer

Absolutely 100% if they had the exact same taste as I do.

ohsheeT · Answer

Of course but the thing would be you can move my things out to the garage but you can't throw them away

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

To a certain degree. I want my home to still be a reflection of me and my energy; to be my space. When my boyfriend moved in, there wasn't much he asked to change other than just have a space for his computer (which eventually turned into a dual space as he built a pc for me to play with him) and a space for his collectibles.

Still-alive · Answer

So my thing with this is let me have my game room she can have the rest of the home lol. So i get to do with my game room what i want. she can decorate the rest of the place how she wants. i think thats more than fair :P

MikeTheBartender · Answer

To some extent I guess, number one. She would have her own room for hobbies or whatever shit, but the common areas we would have to find common ground.

queenofcardio · Answer

I've actually never officially lived with a partner. I do prefer having things in a certain place but I'm open to compromising.

Cyfris · Answer

Always do and for me it helps a space to feel more like ours then mine. I know women really appreciate it from my experience and even when it isn't to my taste that is a sacrfice I am willing to make.

RingOfFire · Answer

Let's put it this way. If you are a guy, the answer better be YES! (if you don't want to be sleeping alone on your old worn out couch!)

MrChinaski · Answer

Sure. They can redecorate my bedroom floor with their panties. That's it.

exitseven · Answer

If it was up to me the house would look like my shed.

Beckybooboo · Answer

I've always added my touch and never had any complaints. I've always appreciated that they let me.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If she has a good sense of style then yes but the drapes can only be dark blue, dark red, or dark green

jahaims · Answer

Other than pictures of loved ones decorating isn't worth the effort

DarKnight36 · Answer

We can exchange ideas with each other if someone has a good idea.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends on if she likes what I did with the place already

Twodogs0525 · Answer

I wouldn't mind at all, they've always been the ones to do it.

AgentG111 · Answer

Are they moving in at your request and with understanding or are they moving in without conversation about the arrangements?

Alex757 · Answer

I would talk to her about she wants to add or takeaway from decorating & help her every step of the way

Crankor · Answer

Would depend on what that included. If they tried without asking then absolutely not.

LC75LC71 · Answer

Just let me keep the living room or promise we'll get a bigger place with a basement!

Sunnyrjs · Answer

Part of it so they could feel at home but not so much that I feel out of my home. Something like there area or part of the cabinet

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No the can bring some things but not everything i dont like clutter

Anonymous · Answer

If I were in a relationship, and if she wanted to redecorate, I'd say yes.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

His room. That's it.

tnttlc · Answer

i would prefer to live next door

fish5505_87 · Answer

Yes, I'm horrible at decorating!

Agape93 · Answer

Only to an extent

LiamJHayden · Answer

No..

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