Is it healthy to constantly spoil your partner with gifts?

[MissSunshine2]

I buy the man I love nice gifts for occasions, like finding work, college graduation, Christmas and birthdays, Easter. I do it not to impress him, but as a way of showing him how much I care.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I wouldn't like receiving a lot of gifts, it would not send the right vibe to me. As if she was clumsily trying to send out a message. Also, such behaviour would not be customary for me, traditions I know of are about 2 gifts a year, for birthday and Christmas.

[Grond21]

Gifts are a love language. If they are received that way, then it's wonderful.

[Grond21]

Thanks for the MHO!

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode love, red flags, and all the messy cute stuff in between 😏

Spoiling with gifts isn’t unhealthy by itself. It’s sweet, romantic, and honestly kinda adorable. The problem starts if:
he expects it, gives nothing back emotionally, or you use gifts to “earn” love.

If he appreciates you, spoils you in his own way, and you’re not draining your wallet or self-esteem, you’re totally good, babe. 🎁❤️

[Kaneki05]

Hmm gifts a double edged sword...
If she buys you a gift now you are obligated to buy her one, etc etc then you are both spending money on each other yet one could just buy the thing they wanted in the first place...
Then if you share money how is it a gift? Isn't it just spending without asking?
So overall I don't get it, only really works if one earns more and they're the primary gift giver not expecting much back.

[William7489]

I think it really depends. I think if you do it for a guy, he would probably love it. A lot of girls might see it as you trying to buy their affection if you were overdoing it. You might seem desperate or trying too hard to some women. That’s unfortunate because it shouldn’t be seen that way, but it can be. That’s a great question.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

How is gift giving your love language but you can’t stand it when people do it to you?

[MissSunshine2]

I don’t know how or why. It’s a mystery to me, too.

[sage2021]

I am a very thoughtful person like you are. I'm always on the lookout for something to buy for someone. Not for any specific reason, but just because it reminded me of them when I saw it.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It really depends on the person. I'm not a fan of the constant gifting, it'd kind of make me feel bad.

[bowenw]

I don't see any problem with gifts on special occasions, just not excessive.