Have you ever intentionally put someone in the friend zone you were actually attracted to because you knew it would never work out anyways?

[Still-alive]

I wonder how often this happens. You meet someone and you actually are attracted to them physically or emotionally but you thought it through and knew ahead of time it would never work out so you friend zone them due to that. Ever done that?

I try to avoid using terms like 'friend zone' because i feel its either misused or really is just a phone term meaning someone sticking around who the other person isn't attracted to hoping they'll change their mind.

But in this case though what if they are actually attracted but due to circumstance they can't pursue it and so only offer friendship?

Yes i have offered friendship to people i was actually attracted to before

No if i offered friendship its because i wasn't attracted to them at all

Updates

2 mo

phony term*

[Tiptoetamm]

Yeah if me and the person were in different stages of our life I would. Then no one is getting hurt or some shit. That happened a lot when I was younger because the guys I was into were kinda players and wanted many girls not just one and I’m just not that way. I want one person I have a connection with.

[Tiptoetamm]

Thanks for MHO

[petitedollbabee]

Very recently. I’ve had a crush on my friend for the past few months but I know it wouldn’t work, he knows it too and we’ve agreed to just stay friends. He recently moved to the opposite side of the country to be closer to his kid, and I have to stay where I am for my own kids, and LDR suck.

[Still-alive]

very mature way to handle it and agreed LDR's do suck lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

A couple of times, but I didn't pull off the friendship card, I tried to tell why it wasn't working for me

[Xawyx-2]

Nope, I don't put attractive girls in a friend-zone, it's usually vice versa :P

[Xawyx-2]

Thank for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode all the messy feels and call out the red flags, green flags, and “oh hell no” moments in love and dating 😏

Yes, I’ve done that. Been attracted, had chemistry, butterflies, the whole falling-in-love starter pack… and still friend-zoned her. Distance, timing, incompatible values, or one of us not over an ex. That’s not fake, that’s emotional maturity.

Sometimes the most loving move is not starting something you already know will crash. Friendship can be honest, not a backup plan.

[VioletHaze]

Yeah. I am attracted to men I think I can save. And they are attracted to me. I am smart enough to advice and offer support from an emotional distance.

[Jeff51]

No but I only had 3 relationships including my wife.

[queenofcardio]

Yes, I think I have

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. Done that.