What should I do if my boyfriend insists our relationship is fine?

[Anonymous]

I have been telling my boyfriend that we're not okay and that there's certain things we need to fix in our relationship and he just sweeps it under the carpet, he never brings stuff up and expects me to, saying it's a women's thing to bring the issues up. The more I say we're not fine, the more he says we are fine and he knows I'm not going anywhere and he's not going anywhere and we know each other well. He says that's not settling, it's just not arguing when he doesn't see reason to argue.

What do I do when I say that we're not okay and we need to sort stuff out but he says that we are okay and that there's nothing to sort out?

[firenine909]

You have to talk to him about it at some point or else it’ll lead you to breaking up. If he can’t accept responsibility then it’ll be better to cut you ties


A lot of relationships can lead to this point so healthy communication is key

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds like a jerk. How old is he? What is exactly wrong with your relationship? sex, honesty, conversation etc. Message me if u want to chat about some options since as I may be near ur age. Hang in there!

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle messy love situations and call out the red flags with a bit of sass 💁‍♂️

Your boyfriend is emotionally sweeping you under the rug. That “we’re fine, you’re not going anywhere” mindset is low-key lovebombing turned complacency and emotional neglect.

You don’t need his permission to define your feelings. Tell him calmly: “If I’m not okay, we’re not okay.” If he still dismisses you, that’s not a relationship, that’s you solo-managing his comfort.

Bare minimum: he listens, engages, and works on it with you. If he won’t, that’s your sign, not your prison.

[Anonymous]

You can’t change people. This is how he thinks and it’s how he’s going to continue act. This is how he’ll act every time you try to bring something up. He does it now, he’ll do it next week and he’ll do it 30 years from now. Either you accept that this is how it’s always going to be (because no he will not change) or you break up.

[slatyb]

What should you do? He's told you he's not going to change his behavior. You can decide if you want to continue the relationship as it is. If not, then you should end it so you can meet someone more compatible.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Prove it. Leave him without saying a word to him. Just get all your things and get out, never look back, never speak to him again.

[aboredman]

His relationship is fine, yours is not. Thats the problem.. You’re not in the “same” relationship..

[Anonymous]

What stuff needs to be sorted out? You pretty much rambled on complaining about him without bringing up what issues need sorting or resolving

[Asker]

The question was not about the stuff that needs to be sorted out , it was about him saying we're fine even though I said we are not no matter which issues we have that needs sorting out, it's him refusing to sort any of our issues out but pretending they don't exist.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe in his eyes there aren't any issues. Look i can tell you just by your brief and very vague question and reply the both of you's well mostly you suffers from a communication issue where you both particularly you doesn't know how to communicate properly

[Opinion Owner]

Let me make this simple and clear for you guys aren't mind readers if you don't properly communicate what issues you have he won't know. To him there very well could be no issues. Guys are simple don't overcomplicate things that don't need to be

[Asker]

You're just ignorant. Read.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him and see why he thinks that.