In an affair, am I or the man who keeps seducing me more at fault?

[TheLovelyWoman]

He charms me into submission many times.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I don't quite understand the context though, actually there's no context except that "charming into submission" expression that I don't get.

So, generically speaking then, I think that realizing you're being seduced brings a choice on your table, if you choose to let the other one seduce you then you'd be responsible for entertaining.

Whereas the taken one seducing you would be responsible for breaking trust.

I would judge lightly the one entertaining and harshly the one breaking trust, that is, if it was my profession to judge that. It is not. I don't care, personally, it's just a mental exercise to me.

[ohsheeT]

It's nobody's fault it's an energy it's something that you must learn you need to learn because that's spiritual that is the peak of spirituality and you need to embrace it become it experience it teach it I think it's a beautiful thing really so I but I wouldn't blame anybody

[MontBlanc]

An affair isn’t an accident, it’s a conscious choice.

Blaming the other person doesn’t change that, it only exposes a lack of integrity and accountability on your part.

True character shows not in what excuses you make, but in the respect you uphold for yourself and others.

If you can’t take responsibility for your actions, maybe take a step back and reflect before questioning anyone else’s behavior.

[Amy10223]

if it's an affair, there is fault on both sides. You can resist, and he doesn't have to chase you if one of you is married.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to shake you awake a bit, with love. 😉

He’s absolutely wrong for pursuing you, seducing you, and not respecting boundaries. Massive red flag. But you’re also responsible for the choices you make. He’s lovebombing and you’re getting hooked on the attention.

He’s more at fault for initiating and persisting, but you’re in control of stopping it. Block, distance, detox. Your future self will thank you.

[AviatorTom]

Why does anyone need to beat fault? You are two adults, intentionally having an affair.

[strateguy632]

Woman have more opportunities. So if he is married, whether she is or not, she could avoid married men but- didn't so that is worse than a man cheated, to grabbed an opportunity. Also traditionally men had many wives so even now the betrayal is smaller.

[WindAtMyBack]

You are trying to diminish your own behavior by blaming him, or by thinking your wrong is not as wrong as his. At least be honest with yourself. You are cheating and you are in the wrong. Nothing will change that. Just the fact that you are asking this question means you are trying to rationalize your behavior.

You are a betrayer, and trying to squirm out of seeing it for what it is. No amount of squirming will make you anything but what you are. A cheater and betrayer.

[OneViewpoint]

Since I don't know your exact circumstances, I have no idea what justification you have for choosing an affair. I'm gonna go with 50/50 responsibility. I've been there myself so I'm not gonna rush to judge you. But I'm sure both of you realize you are potentially playing with fire.

[nolabels]

I'd ask in return then, more at fault in regard to what?

Doing the seducing or submitting to the seduction?

I takes two to tango.

Dost thou enjoy the dance sufficiently to continue?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Whoever is cheating is at fault. The person egging on the other isn't really doing anything wrong.

[capriVib]

many men are generally more open to relationships than women, the woman who accepts the situation is often considered responsible.

[LazerBean]

Both people are at fault, but the married person is far more at fault.

[Berethor]

You both deserve to die, which one of you deserve to die more does not matter.

[Grond21]

You are responsible for your own mistakes, especially if they are repeated.

Seems like your husband was right to be worried

[msc545]

You are completely at fault. You were responsible for your own behavior or at least you should be. I doubt if you really take responsibility for much of anything.

[Anonymous]

Whoever is in the relationship is more at fault, but it could be considered for shared blame. End the relationship and be together if possible.

[krin_m]

You are consenting adults, you both are responsible for your behavior and actions. I won't necessarily call it a fault since I'm poly. just be open about it.

[qwerty2469]

The person that has someone else at home unaware is the one at fault.

[robocop666]

your at fault as if he did not do it someone else would

[Anonymous]

Both of you are at fault. You are weak to keep giving in to him

[slatyb]

the one who is lying to another partner

[Alex-Snow]

Who is already in the relationship? Him or you?

[LiamS95]

You because you allow it to happen.

[FenixG45]

Both of you are at fault

[Anonymous]

You are equally at fault.

[Anonymous]

Him, because he started it.

[Pterodon]

You allow it

[In_Trance]

You are at fault