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Am I just being played by the married man?

So we had a 10 year emotiol affair, we was best friends and spoke daily. 2 years ago it became sexual, but wasn’t a regular thing. Since the sex was added in he pulled away slowly with the emotional stuff, and eventually we began wanting different things. I became needy and wanted more of him whilst he wasn’t less of me. He officially ended the relationship 7 months ago, I was hurt but me and him was never going to go on forever. I had tried ending it numerous times over the years but I always returned, so I always knew it had to be him. He told me I was just a fantasy to him, that he didn’t feel love for me, but has feelings and will always be my friend, that he enjoyed what we had, but he no longer wants to risk his family. This hurt, as I thought we loved each other but I accepted and walked away, I have never reached out and even through the pain I’ve never over the months, I’ve never initiated contact and I respected his decision. 2 months ago, as I started coming out of the grieving stage and feeling like myself again he returns, and messages me weekly just to invite me out with friends. My replies are kept brief but civil and I have always refused his offers, until this Saturday, whilst I was out anyway I agreed to meet him and other friends. I really looked forward to seeing him, but then he baled and didn’t even turn up. We had a huge argument over the phone, and I’m left in an emotional state again and I feel he’s set me back months on my healing process. Why end things, then continue to ask me out, then to not even turn up?

Am I just being played by the married man?
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