In a conflict, is it better to explain yourself or stay silent?

[sage2021]

Sometimes we try to explain ourselves to the other person only to find out that they have already made up their mind about the situation.
I think that most people these days have learned not to over explain things to the other person - because it doesn't seem to matter what you say, they're going to believe what they want. Period.

[AviatorTom]

When my wife and I have a "disagreement", I usually try to explain myself. Sometimes she gets it, most of the time she doesn't.

Because there's a chance she might understand what I did or say, I keep trying to explain myself.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[sage2021]

@AvaitorTom
You're so welcome!🧡🙂

[exitseven]

it depends. Some times it is better to keep your mouth shut.

[sage2021]

@exitseven

I totally agree 💯%👍🏼with you !!

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[sage2021]

@exitseven
You're very welcome!🙂🧡

[ohsheeT]

If you're going to explain yourself you need to be in control you only need to say it one time and that's it and then walk away let them do their thing who cares nothing's going to get solved right there in that moment anyway and just because you're angry or something and you get out of control to show them you're angry well it's better if you don't do it that way especially if you're trying to be right or especially if you are right there's some things in this world worth fighting for but there's some things that are not and it doesn't matter how much you fight they're not going to understand it anyway cuz they don't care so the best thing you can do is stay in control and Let It Go mark it up as a loss and get the fuck out of my house lol

[RavVid]

It does seem to be a female penchant to desire to have fights. It is attention even though negative attention.

If it is for that reason than there is no point in explaining your self cause the outward reason is not the reason.

Memory is associative and the association in females is more strongly between emotional feelings and memory.

So the female brain reasons this thing you just did made me feel like this and that thing you did 10 years ago made me feel the same. That is why women can suddenly bring up stuff you think should be long forgotten.

You can't argue with their emotions and it is not worth trying to. Logic and emotions are oil and water.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's usually better to shut up. But it's also important to understand that speaking in conflict is a communication skill. You need to be very good at it to get just a little benefit from the skill, present, aware of the situation at hand and that also means the other person needs to feel like you understand their point of view.

Most people can't do any of that stuff so that's why it's usually better to leave it alone.

[InknKink]

Resolution to any conflict requires a compromise. a lot of people are not willing to even entertain the idea of a compromise when they feel they've been wronged.

Most conflicts are best just ignored or forgiven.

[sage2021]

@InknKink

Yeah, but what if one person was willing to compromise, but the other one decided that a verbal thrashing was a better idea and proceeded to attack the other person and tear them down at just about anything and everything to make the other people feel worse?

[InknKink]

Then proceed to read my answer a second time.

[queenofcardio]

Stay silent in the moment. I think it's better to eventually discuss the manner when you're both in a calm state. I don't like when people sweep issues under the rug. Sometimes it becomes a bigger issue later on.

[Zack-Bann]

Conflict is all about frame control not reason


So it’s best to explain whatever needs explaining to get the point across not spending hours monologuing explanations

[NathanDavis]

there's a better timing for both... to do both, lol

[Sal_Monella]

I have said: We will just have to agree to disagree. They often try to continue the argument to win. I simply say: You have a nice day. It infuriates them. Good.

[Jordi2525]

If things escalate to shouting or disrespect, it's best to stay quiet and leave. You don't have to explain to people that they can think whatever they want; it's none of your business!

[Xawyx-2]

Depends on the type of the conflict, but always remember this - Silence is golden.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

People that are worthy you can explain yourself.

Some people are just energy vampires and there's no need to say anything.

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes you're right it happens but sometimes a person make up his mind based on facts 🤷🏻‍♂️

[AgentG111]

Depends the type of conflict and if you feel deep down it will help or resolve the issue

[nolabels]

Yes, I hate when that happens.
It so happens that just such a situation was recently a thorn in my side.

[Sophia1998]

I’ll hold things back while trying to explain myself.

[Sunnyrjs]

Depends, is the person in front of you worth that effort if not then I would rather walk away.

[ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ]

I'm isolated from people, so I haven't lived because I haven't interacted with them.

[Jonettacali]

Both. Accordingly to the person you're in conflict with.

[Jeff51]

My wife stays silent. I don't tho.

[thegreenyogi]

It really depends on the situation.