Do You Stand Up For Yourself During A Confrontation or Are You Silent 😶?

[sage2021]

I've always stood up for myself but I am learning that being silent is a better way to handle it when I am in a confrontation with someone.

Most people have already made up their mind about how they feel about you anyway, so why over explain yourself because they are still going to misunderstand you no matter what you say.

[NathanDavis]

depends... on the situation

in general... most of the times I don't stand up for myself, I just keep walking and move on

I avoid confrontation, you see... one thing is someone starting conflict or trying to provoke and start shit, that's more like testing the waters in most cases... so for me, I don't have to entertain that shit, lol

I move on... and I keep walking, now... if they follow up and/or following me, that's very different lol... that's a different level or messing around, and I am still going to go on my way for their own good because now, I won't be standing up for myself... I am going to pull a full stop to the bullshit but that... is never a good thing, no matter what

but this is just one scenario... and there could be so many other that could and would go differently

[ohsheeT]

It all depends on the confrontation

If it's Petty words he said she said nonsense and I know better than I also know better to just keep my mouth quiet it doesn't matter what I think feel or say

If it's life-threatening The split second as it's happening I'm going to take care of it I'm going to be engaged 100%

Actually a split second before it even happens I will see it feel it and already be engaged

[ChasingSophie]

Historically, I've been a chronic over-explainer. Like, I'll spend 20 minutes making my case to someone who decided how they felt about me before I even opened my mouth. And you're right, it doesn't change anything. It just leaves me exhausted and somehow feeling worse than if I'd said nothing.

I know what I should do. I just keep doing the other thing. The silence thing is genuinely hard when your brain is wired to believe that if you just find the right words, you can make someone understand you. Turns out some people aren't interested in understanding you, and no amount of explaining fixes that.

[sage2021]

@ChasingSophie

I really like your opinion!

The silent thing takes practice. That's the trick to that.

At least you got what I was saying. And that's great.👍🏼

I used to be an over explainer myself but after many years of doing that, I could tell that I was just wasting my breath.

[ChasingSophie]

The over-explaining thing is so real. I'm still very much in the thick of it, honestly. I'll catch myself writing a paragraph to someone who gave me a one-word reply and think... why am I doing this. They're not going to suddenly understand me better because I added three more sentences. But I do it anyway.

I think for me it comes from this anxious place of needing people to get it, get me, right now, or else I spiral. The silence feels like losing. Learning that it's not has taken longer than I'd like to admit.

[FreyaRed]

Depends on confrontation, especially what is to gain with such one. Most confrontations are pointless ego competitions among people who aren't happy with their social status. it's better to remain silent and making occasional cynical remarks. However sometimes it's necessary to be assertive and controlled aggressive. I have talent for that and for hitting nerves.
On the other hand I noticed individuals who are unhappy with their ego or social status avoid me instinctively as opponent. This is positive in many situations but negative effect is, I am sometime too careless.

[thegreenyogi]

I stand up for myself when the moment is appropriate.

[whosnumber_1]

Stand up for what you believe in. But if you don't know the whole picture listen and absorb. Or ask questions and be curious

[LiamJHayden]

Most confrontations are not worth my effort, so I tend to walk away unless the fool tries to get physical.

[Staff2002]

Silently stand up for myself. I study the situation.

[LC75LC71]

I stand up and have the scars to prove it. It's nothing to be proud of, just who I am.

[TonyMetal___86]

Stand up for myself but sometimes i just leave because it isn't worth it

[kaucky1]

However others seem to be stand up for selves cause we all got our limitations

[Xawyx-2]

Depends on who am I having confrontation with, but I usually stand up for myself.

[Tomislav7]

I have nothing say back. f***** is checkmate

[exitseven]

I stand up for myself except with my wife.

[dudeinohio]

Oh, I stand up for myself.

[Jeff51]

I try to stand up.

[Zionne]

i listen

[Shrimpenjoyer]

It depends on the situation

[fish5505_87]

I stand up.

[AgentG111]

Stand up!