If you're in a relationship and happened to be in an argument do you think silence is best or explaining to them?

[sage2021]

[NathanDavis]

communication is key...

a relationship with no communication is not a true relationship, or not a good one anyway...

now, yes... sometimes, but only sometimes... it might be best to keep quiet at the very moment, but still... talk about it, understanding is a must if you want to get along, lol

[Geo1970]

No,
The best way to deal with such is for the most diplomatic of you,
To calm the situation,
The deal with it until you both resolve the problem.

[Genie23]

One of the most damaging thing you can do to your relationship is give silence treatment to your partner rather as it creates distance than take few breaths and express how you feel and listen to how your partner feels and try not to sound like you're accusing your partner or think he or she doesn't sound everything wrong. Just make each other understand what's the issue and try to find a solution. If you truly love your partner, you'll look for ways to fix the issue to make things smoother between you and your partner.

[Rei13]

It depends on your communication style, though talking is best. I get really silent when an argument occurs with my partner and remove myself from the room. I don’t know how to communicate or act when I’m mad so I shutdown (product of upbringing), if I don’t I explode. After a little time of me taking that time to shutdown we’ll sit next to each other or cuddle in silence and then once it passes talk about it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Silence is preferable to responding with anger, but hopefully the anger soon subsides and then we have a civilized discussion.

[beenherebefore]

I think is important to give space to each other to cool off immediately after an argument, but I do not agree with silent treatment that's passive aggressive behavior and can hurt both sides. Give it a day/night and address the issue the next day.

[PeachyPie93]

Depends on the person some people its like talking to a brick wall and they dont listen or consider your opinions so sometimes its best just to leave it because its pointless to argue.

[sage2021]

@PeachyPie93
I hear you!! I tell them "I might as well be talking to the carpet"!!
I can't stand it when someone falsely accuses me of something that is sooo not true and then they won't allow me to defend myself. Now that's just not fair. Right?

[cheating-test_com]

People say communication is key, but sometimes you just can’t get through to some people’s minds, even with the best arguments. It’s so difficult — I would definitely consider breaking up if the person keeps making mistakes and refuses to listen. Staying silent will only let it keep happening without any change.

[sage2021]

@cheating-test-com

I agree 💯👍🏼 with you on that. And I don't understand why it has to be so difficult for people to just talk it out.
And you're right about even with the best of arguments to have them just listen to you and communicate with you would be the ideal thing to do, but they just can't seem to bring themselves to be reasonable no matter what you say to them.
In that case it would be best to go your separate ways because hey, fair is fair and it has to be mutual fairness.

[worldscolide]

Shutting down communication is not only wrong, its just plain stupid, and shows you dont respect the person you're with. Plus, the silent treatment is abuse plain and simple. Its emotional blackmail.

[sage2021]

@worldscolide
I've been watching a lot of videos about relationships lately and they are telling people "Don't over explain yourself". "If you're silent it shows that you are the strong one", because it takes courage to remain calm and silent.
Personally I wouldn't over explain myself but I sure as heck wouldn't be silent. Wild horses couldn't keep me silent 😶

[worldscolide]

You're watching the wrong videos my friend..

[sage2021]

@worldscolide
It's amazing that no matter which video you watch they are all saying the same thing. I don't agree with them and in the comments I tell them that I don't agree with them.
There aren't any videos other than those that all say the same thing
See... that's why I have never frequented any social media websites other than GaG because see how they try to get everyone reprogrammed? I don't care for that at all.

[sawno]

Very situational, if emotions are to high retreat and try again later. If your both calm enough negotiate a way forward.

[avery58]

Silence for the time being until we cool off, so we don't hurt each other more. Then when we feel better, try to talk about it maturely.

[Dongie]

It would depend on things such as her level of hysteria. I might wait out of earshot for a while then give her the details so she could feel full of guilt.

[AndrésC64]

Obviously not. Staying quiet doesn't explain anything.

[SamWinchester058]

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. 😂

[Jeff51]

My wife gives me the silent treatment for 2 days.

[SkimmingDetective]

Depends on the situation