Is There Anyone Who You Really Want To Contact Again, But Too Much Time Has Passed, Or You're Just Afraid To Contact Them?

[sage2021]

Sometimes we let fear get in our way in life. It can be our worst enemy. But if you keep thinking and wondering about someone from your recent or long ago past, and fear is what is stopping you, you might just be surprised at how happy 😊 they are when you reach out to them. They might have been wishing that they would hear from you again.

I've heard about people who were high school sweethearts and for some reason they couldn't stay together back then. But then they gave them a call and decided to meet in person, only to realize those feelings are still right there like they never left. And some of them actually end up getting married.❤️

[RingOfFire]

When I was a 18 and went off to college across the country I met a girl there literally on my first day and we fell in love. We dated through college and were talking about getting married after. Her home was in a different part of the country from mine and we spent time staying at each other's parents' homes on vacations and summers.

One summer we had an argument and it got out of control. She went home to her parents' home. We were both stubborn and let it drag until it seemed just too late to repair it. One thing led to another and it was over.

I followed her life every so often by looking her up online. She got married and lived in the state where the college was. A year or so ago I looked her up and nearly passed out when I found her obituary.

On her obituary was a comment from a man who apparently lived in the state her parents did nearby where she lived. He said that he had the pleasure of dating her that summer in that town. It was the same summer we broke up. He said that he fell in love and asked her to marry him that same summer.

I will never forget the rest of it. He said she told him that she couldn't marry him because she was in still in love with someone else and hoping he would come back to her. It broke his heart but he still thought she was the most beautiful girl he ever met. Even while I write this there are still tears in my eyes thinking about it and how my stubborn pride kept me from the love of my life.

For the last 45 years I had though of contacting her just to tell her I had no hard feelings, had so many beautiful memories of our time together and was happy for her. I never did it.

Don't put it off.

[sage2021]

@RingOfFire

WOW!! I feel as if I just read the Preface of a romance novel.

Your real life story brought tears to my eyes as I was reading it.

Your heart must have shrunk when you saw the obituary of her. Man!! I'm sorry.😔

See, that's exactly the reason I posted this question. To encourage anyone to just pick up the phone and contact them and see what happens. ⚖️ It could go either way but at least you will know for sure what the facts are and it could change your entire life, just like it would have changed yours.

I'm hoping that I hear from another member on a DM maybe that they made the leap and went for it and they have rekindled their relationship again.

I don't know if you would want to do this or not, but people go on Legacy. com and find people they once knew on there and you can leave a memory message to the person. It might make you feel better if you said something to her even now.

My late boyfriend was a widower and he was so broken hearted and grief stricken and he would go on that website and write ✍🏼 her about how he was feeling inside. He wrote a few of them to her and shared with her when he was having a bad grief day.😢 It helped him.
You're a good man Charlie Brown and don't you forget that. 🧡

[RingOfFire]

❤️
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[AviatorTom]

It would be nice to contact my best man from my first wedding. He was my best friend. When I moved away, we stayed in touch for a few years, then grew apart. It's been years since we've seen each other, or exchanged texts or email. Last I knew, he still lived in the same place though I've moved a few times, we're several hundred miles apart.

Thanks to this post, maybe I'll try reaching out and contact him.

[sage2021]

@AviatorTom

I hope that you do reach out to him! We aren't getting any younger.
Let me know how it works out! Just do it! 😂

[OlderAndWiser]

There are two women from my past who I have not heard from in many years and I am curious about what they have done with their lives. One of them would be 82, if she is still alive, and I have reasons to suspect she may not be alive. She was a mistake for me but I cared very much about her. The other was my age, was a wonderful match for me, but I moved away from Tampa and did not maintain contact with her.

However, I am married now and I love my wife. That is more important than satisfying my curiosity and some things really should remain in the past.

[whosnumber_1]

I went through this. There was a girl I got together with and then ghosted. She was a really good friend of mine for a long time and it always bothered me. I reached badly because of my immaturity at the time. Decades later I got her information through another friend. Found out she loves in Barbados. I called her out of the blue and had a great conversation and explained myself to her.

It was something that also bothered her as well. It was a weight lifted off my shoulder for sure.

[sage2021]

@whosnumber_1

Now see - that's what I'm talking about!! Good for you! 😊

[Zack-Bann]

Yeah I can think of one person I wonder about


But I also know she’s not single so reopening that wound would be just pain


I prefer to let sleeping dogs lie
And if I ever learn things changed and life wants us to take a real shot we will.
The chemistry she and I had when we knew each other cannot be manufactured
I know it wouldn’t be hard to rekindle


But I’m also not living on false hope that destiny is a thing.
I would rather have new contact with new people
That’s the healthy thing to want

[AgentG111]

Yeah, but I believe I should leave well enough alone.

[sage2021]

@AgentG111

Maybe not! 🤔 At least think about it okay? 👍🏼

[Sal_Monella]

I had a girlfriend of 55 years ago call me right out of the blue. That took courage.

[NathanDavis]

I sometimes think our elementary school should have a reunion... lol

[LC75LC71]

My first love. I won't and haven't for well shit almost 20 years! Crazy now that I think about it.. Last time we talked was July of 2007.

[Jeff51]

My growing up friends.