How do I let go of my ‘corporate’ personality and find my real self?

[Anonymous]

I am too selfless, don't have boundaries, don't have ego, but I am going to always put everyone in my shoes whenever I get a chance.
I developed this arrogance when I started living on my own, which is my greatest flaw, but unable to fix it.
I am unable to fix it because it kills a part of my personality which helped me to get a job.
I want to find some new way to stop this corporate personality to come out when I am with my friend, family, classmates etc.

My whole personality is my old job which I have left. I need to get rid of it to find love for myself.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle love, identity, and all the messy in-betweens, including this “corporate clone” phase you’re in 😏

You don’t need to kill that side of you, you just need to *park* it. Use “modes”: work mode, real-me mode. With friends and family, practice saying small no’s, share imperfect thoughts, allow yourself to be silly, selfish, emotional. Boundaries and ego aren’t flaws, they’re self-respect.

You didn’t lose your real self. You just buried them under performance. Start doing things where there’s no reward: hobbies, journaling, walking alone, creating. That’s where the non-corporate you starts flirting her way back into the light 💋

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s called “anxiety” and you can get medicated for it

[Asker]

Money money 💰
I don't have money to sustain myself right now
As I changed to a different country and trying to get a job over here

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

How man countries don’t have universal health care?

[Asker]

Cause men aren't given any love or attention
Health care is something women need more care and they are given.
Even the system, government , and insurance companies say that I have the same health care but we don't even have appointments for those as well...

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

What country is this that the government only cares about the continuing survival of women and lets the men die? I want to become a citizen lol

[Asker]

Every country that is

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Lame ass liar

[Asker]

I am in the UK I haven't got any appointments yet

[Asker]

One of my female friends just went in and she got everything done without going to an emergency.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Does she have a therapist?

[Asker]

No why

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So when you went to the doctor to ask for help with your anxiety, presumably to the same office, what did you say?

[Asker]

I just said I don't any appointment...

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then make one

[Asker]

It's still there on my NHS app

[Asker]

I check it every day cause I was getting nail pus again and again due to overtime walks.
(Started walking to get away from some part of my brain)
Can't jog, my hip injury when I was 16 it hurts my back and hip on the right side.

[Asker]

I just removed the sides of the nail myself.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

What does that have to do with anxiety?

[Asker]

No I mean I did that 😅 cause I am not getting any appointments of doc

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

There’s no reason a doctor would block your appointments unless you did something fucked up to that specific doctor

[Asker]

Nope I haven't gone to any doctors after coming here

[Asker]

This is my first time trying to book one and been on a waiting list for 3 months or so

[Asker]

And I came here just 6 months before,

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

That sounds like an understaffed office. Try another one

[Asker]

Ah NHS doesn't have any work around for me specifically yet...
It says go into the emergency but that is not good cause it's always full and I don't wanna waste like 6-7 hours