How did your marriage change after your kids left the nest?

[Anonymous]

Our kids will be 22, 23 soon
Finishing college

I slightly dread just me and the wife being left

Can we stay married

I am young at heart but 60 yo

[siefert_S]

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[AviatorTom]

Can a marriage survive after the kids have left? Of course it can, but sometimes it doesn't.

After our kids were grown, we struggled for a few years, and then amicably divorced. You see, we originally married with the goal of raising a family. After we did that, we realized we really didn't have that much in common.

We are still on good terms with each other. The divorce was actually good for both of us. Each of us is happily remarried.

[katiesmuff]

WOW! It's hard to think of those days yet with one out of the nest but three ranging from 7 to 14 still in the nest, but I think much might depend on how much you and partner did together or as a family all through your marriage. I look at my parents both in their 90's very healthy and active, however with 7 grown children with families they have children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren around a good portion of the time which maybe the reason they seem so very happy.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

A little bit of advice from a younger woman - Young at heart you are , so is your wife.

And don’t fall into the trap that any of us are or will be interested in you. Your wife is.

You better be thankful for your wife and try to make it a happy adventure for both of you ;)

[Asker]

You are right

I might be under the illusion that because one woman loves me, I can get another
And that new women would even work out

Thank you for the good advice
I like my wife
But she can be overbearing
I told her and maybe she tones it down slightly but it's still there

Sorry for sounding whiny 🙂

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My parents had a similar phase after we moved out. It was hard and difficult for them for a while, but they worked through it and ended up becoming much closer and even happier than before. I’ve genuinely never seen them so close before, they are a great team now and each other’s best confidants. It’s lovely to see them like this.

I think empty nest can feel scary, but it can also be a chance to reconnect in a different way.

If there’s still care between you and your wife, sometimes it’s not about replacing it - just rediscovering it. You’ve got this.

[Asker]

Last time we went anywhere together, in a car, was 3 years ago
And not great

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you not just stay married, but actually enjoy it 😉

When the kid chaos left, most couples I work with either fall apart… or fall in love again. The difference is intention. Date your wife again. Travel, flirt, share hobbies, cuddle on the couch without worrying who’s barging in.

Empty nest can feel scary, but it’s also a second honeymoon if you don’t emotionally ghost each other.

[Mike_Hum]

You sure they're gonna leave? lol.

It's time to start dating your wife again. You don't have to be anywhere any time. You can hit a winery on a weekend and get a hotel.

Walk around the house naked. Take a trip, buy a boat or a hottub. There's nothing to dread, this is the time to act like you're in your 20s but now you have money.

[exitseven]

After we got the last one through college we had more disposable income and were able to buy a summer house which is something we always wanted. That kept us pretty busy and we really enjoyed it.

I guess just having the two of us was an adjustment but the upside is that we have more time for ourselves.

[whosnumber_1]

When you say young at heart, what does that mean...

[Anonymous]

Tine to take up golf? ⛳ Or swimming? Something maybe.

Hell : I can only guess some want the quieter house or others want to busy themselves outside the house. I wouldn't know, I'm not old yet or flown the nest, chirp chirp 🐦🕊️

[Anonymous]

So you didn't have kids till you were almost 40?

I smell more BS.

[Asker]

What are you?
The femi Nazi?

[Anonymous]

Young at heart? Looks like an old age crisis

[Asker]

Another femi Nazi
It's like you stalk any question that night be perceived to be negative to women?
I am possibly making a personal statement rather than a broad criticism of women in general?

[Opinion Owner]

Old age crisis

[Asker]

Femi nazi

[Jeff51]

I don't know yet. Daughter still here

[NicholasofAustralia]

Similar to my answer - 😁 though I thankfully have no offspring

[Jeff51]

@NicholasofAustralia wish I had a son. Lol