Is fighting until your last breath better than giving up when it comes to love?

[Anonymous]

I sort of got confirmation that they haven't given up on us. I just have to keep at it. Don't give up. That's what love is all about right?

[Anonymous]

Uh, yeah. But that is ONLY relevant if you choose a good partner to begin with. And most people f*** that up from the get-go.

To quote the movie The Mexican, "When do you get toast point when enough's enough?" "Never". But like I say, this is only relevant if you chose a partner that is worthwhile of that. And few people today do that.

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[NathanDavis]

if you have to fight it... then it is not love

it is something else

[Asker]

But he said he hasn't given up on me or else he wouldn't still be talking to me.

[NathanDavis]

love is supposed to be good, great, positive...

not struggle and nightmare, certainly not forced...

[Asker]

It's not forced though. We still carry on like a couple. There are things we have gone through that has been a lot but we are still championing through even though we aren't together right now... I think he's coming around. I just need to give him more time.

[NathanDavis]

all fighting is forced... otherwise, it wouldn't be a fight

[CriminallyInsane]

You're describing a situation where it seems there is no reason to give up. That's not a blanket philosophy that always applies though. Sometimes giving up is what's best.

[Asker]

But he said he hasn't given up on me or else he wouldn't still be talking to me.

[CriminallyInsane]

I didn't tell you to give up?

[Asker]

No you didn't.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love without losing your mind… or your heart 😉

Fighting for love is beautiful, but only when both people are actually fighting. If it’s just you holding everything together, that’s not romance, that’s emotional burnout.

Love is effort, yes, but it should feel mutual, safe, and respectful. Fight for it, but never against yourself, your self-worth, or your mental health.

[OlderAndWiser]

Who is it that you are fighting?

[Asker]

I'm fighting for the guy I love

[OlderAndWiser]

WHO are you fighting? That is a legitimate question.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, I agree with you. It painful and agonizing, but it she really seems like she is worth it. I share a large share of the blame for our diabolical, so I can't be too mad at her.

[exitseven]

Sometimes you have to know when to let it go. It is not easy to figure out.

[beenherebefore]

No, that's problematic.