Is love something you truly fight for?

[Justneedtokno]

So a first a guy asked me what my intentions were for him. I was shocked due to the fact we just spending time together.

I think it take time. Learning how the other person works.

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I can’t fight for your love and attention every day all day I don’t wanna prove if I’m there for you if I’m already there

[Sixgunsound]

Both sides play a lot of unnecessary games that we didn’t used to have to play. A lot more honest transparency would lead to a lot less confusion, from which both genders would benefit. I’ll never understand the modern preference for games and confusion over honesty and transparency about intentions.

[hahahmm]

"I can’t fight for your love and attention every day all day I don’t wanna prove if I’m there for you if I’m already there" -- If you're not engaged/married you haven't proven anything. When a guy is convinced he gives you a ring.

[Justneedtokno]

Have already expressed to you how I felt I’ve asked you out on dates paid for some at this point you don’t probably want me even if you’re going through a lot

[hahahmm]

A guy doesn't give you a ring because of what you listed tho.

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly I’m not asking for a ring I think I just kind of want and then company and commitment. It would be nice to be married one day. But honestly it may not be for everybody self I’m a hopeless romantic so I know that it may work for others

[hahahmm]

Sure, marriage isn't for everyone but I don't know why you think you will find "commitment" without it. It's also true a lot of people married the wrong person.

[Justneedtokno]

You don’t think people get into a committed relationships? Do you believe that marriage is the only way that you’re truly committed to someone when there are a lot of failed marriages due to lack of commitment

[hahahmm]

Different levels of commitment and marriage is the highest one which is why guys who actually have anything to offer don't rush into marriage and why women don't control whether they get married to such a quality guy or not: men do.

[LazerBean]

If you have to fight, it's probably not right.

[Justneedtokno]

Nothing physical more like words of affirmation or reassurance

[LazerBean]

Still applies

[Justneedtokno]

What do you do deserve someone that you care for them? If you don’t tell them or if you don’t show them how are you making it know

[LazerBean]

Those are just normal parts of a relationship. If you're always having to try to convince them that you love them and that they should stay with you, and if they are continually doubting you, that is a different thing. That is what Fighting for Love is, and it doesn't work.

[NathanDavis]

I will just agree here...

challenges and making an effort are one thing... and expected

but constantly fighting for love is more like forcing something that just probably not right and not going well, and most likely it will not make you happier

[Phoenix98]

If you love each other then that be being expressed frequently through you actions, words, thoughts, how you interact with each other that should all come to you almost naturally.

But if one or neither one of you is there yet then your not there yet. Love can’t be forced it won’t come when you want it to it’ll come whenever it feels like that.

[20yearsolder]

Honestly, I don't think you should have to fight for love. It should just happen. You don't fight for your grandmother to love you. You don't fight for your mother to love you etc

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Girls should make things clear with guys whether they are just spending time together or are serious with them.

It takes time to understand, but you can say what you are thinking at that time. Anything is better than silence.

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah but the expectations of what they want I’m not sure and what if it’s not what they want and I’ve already crossed that line

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Do not worry about that. Guys are well equipped for handling that, thanks to all the girls who play with us, and with multiple rejections. We are pretty ready to take any answer.

[Justneedtokno]

What if it’s simply I don’t know I like their presents and I want to know their story simply want them to be around.
What if I’m not good enough or my answer is not good enough

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t want to be played

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Then kindly tell that! He will be happy to hear it! That you want to be around him. Nothing would make him happy more.

And you are more than good enough. He himself is asking you, I also believe he himself may be asking that question to himself.

All the best!

[OddBeMe]

Philosophically it could be argued not much. Love should come easy. Though for it to be easy you gotta keep your emotions in shape, like exercise.

[legalboxers]

if she means the world to me and more I would

[exitseven]

YES, if it is really important enough people will fight for it. Maybe that is the point.

[Jamie05rhs]

The question doesn't match the subheading. Two different topics, I feel.

[Justneedtokno]

No I think they match. It’s the effort how much effort do you feel is if you need an order for you to fill love how much fight do you have in you to even give love or even prove it all the time.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Justneedtokno I'm sorry, but I just don't understand what you mean at all.

[KrakenAttackin]

How does one fight for love? If you have to fight for love it tells me your live is one-way.

[Justneedtokno]

affirmation or reassurance

[msc545]

Nah - tired of fighting.

[In_Trance]

You should never have to

[roy_ricky09]

Absolutely

[gayeki]

Yes, definitely! ❣️