So this is how it feels fighting for love, not wanting to lose them?

[Anonymous]

For the longest, I was used to making pranks on everyone, including my current ex girlfriend.

One time I went too far with my pranks and hurt her badly. She nearly left me for that. I've abandoned pranks ever since and told her the 2nd time would be real. The 2nd time was in the morning and she thought I was joking again.

I can't reach her. She has blocked me on all pages. The only way to get to her would coming to her house. I've never fought for love like this before. Is this how is it to not want to lose the one you love, to the point you don't care about your own freedom anymore?

Updates

+1 y

I can proof her it is for real this time. I have the evidence to show her, if she would just give me a chance. It's not a prank but she doesn't believe me.

[Ilovethesunshine]

Yeah you are just another immature jerk! Live her alone don't bother her! She deserves a real men and when I mean a real men I mean a guy in his 40's you know guys in their 40's are better then love and protect the woman they love you don't see them playing childish pranks on them! Just live her alone let her be happy and find a real men that will protect , love and appreciate her. YOU ARE A MEN CHILD! I BET YOU out you're mom first before you're ex girlfriend.

This is why years ago I quit and stop dating men my around my age because you don't appreciate the woman that love you and care for you! Now I am happy and my boyfriend he is 45 a real men that know what love means. No live her alone and let her find happiness you hurt her enough!

[Asker]

Just give up and not even try to win her back? I got to see her. It's very important to the point I'll be capable of missing my work tomorrow if that's what it takes to see her. It's not a joke this time.

I can proof it it's for real. I have the evidence.

[Asker]

It was 2 years ago I pulled that prank on her and that's the day I've abandoned all pranks. Today my question was for real. I don't want to just give up without trying at least. If I can proof it's for real and her answer is still no, ok I'll respect that but she thinks it's a joke. It's not a prank. It's real.

[lightbulb27]

wait... she broke off 2yrs ago, you haven't seen her, but now you want to go back and propose? Is that right?

[Asker]

@lightbulb27
Nope. I used to be a prankster all my life and 2 years ago, among the many pranks I've played on her I did a marriage proposal prank. She got hurt and nearly broke up.
Just yesterday it was for real and she thinks I'm pranking her again, broke up and blocked me on all her social medias. I need to see her.

[Ilovethesunshine]

Wait so prank her on proposing to her? You are disgusting! You don't joke about things like that it breaks a girl's down. You don't deserve her just live her alone it let her freedom to find happiness. You don't deserve her!

[Asker]

That was 2 years ago and I really regret it. Now that it was for real, she doesn't believe me.

[lightbulb27]

yea so you have regret after realizing how bad that was and now you really want to marry her... after 2 years? no wonder she doesn't believe you, who would.. you body slammed her heart and did a lot of damage. This sounds like is about you feeling better than about making good with her. That may hurt of make you angry, but you got to see her side of this.

you want to marry someone out of guilt? this girl probably tear you up at this point depending on her personality. how do you trust she isn't going to hurt you back worse? how well did you know this person?

I think you are in a fantasy that in essence is forgiveness and making amends. If you want to make amends, do that. But marrying someone in this scenario is not reality unless she is a saint.

im glad you learned your lesson about pranks. there's books on forgiveness. I'd suggest work with a counselor on this to guide you because you need help. it's good you are asking here, that's a start. One one possibility is write this down, maybe a book, confess to it publicly to prevent other people from doing the same. make speeches at school or youtube... not that it's funny, but the emotional destruction, tears, fear, shame, loss. this is confession of "sins" in the Bible. You can try to make amends to her, but asking her to marry you... that's a fantasy in your mind to right it. I can't imagine she'd want to open that wound again. Let her humiliate you... monetary amends, apology letter in public not to her. like I said... talk to a therapist (someone trained in emotional traumatic events)... this is tricky to get through.

Frankly, this is comparable to some of the people who kill others in an emotional tirade, and then regret it. Can't take it back It just was emotional instead of physical.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lol, you fucked around and now you found out.

You gotta respect people around you, or you're going to be shunned.

You have the freedom to be an asshole, but that means you deal with the consequences of being abandoned because no one wants to deal with your shit.

Be better, or get used to having backs turned on you. 🤷🏽

[Asker]

I never really had to fight for love nor beg someone not to leave and really meant it from the heart. I had had to go that length but this time might be the moment.
The good thing is I have the proof that will show her my proposal was a real one this time. I'll be heading over at her house in a bit later. That would be my last attempt and I won't bother her anymore aftewards if she declines me.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lol, dude just stop now. If you go over she might even call the cops on you.

Just accept you fucked up.

You've never had to fight for love before probably because no one ever really felt connected to you. If you've always been a prankster, people would know not to trust you.

But trust is needed in a romantic relationship.

And if you pranked her by fake proposing, I can totally see her never wanting anything to do with you. It's like getting her pregnant - there's some things you never joke about.

If you were too ratbrained to figure that out when you were younger, things don't look good for you.

Get therapy to learn about how to respect other people, dude. You need it.

[Asker]

This was 2 years ago. My recent proposal from yesterday wasn't a prank but she I'm still joking. I have ring with the receipt on it as proof that it's real. If she still doesn't want me in her life, I won't bother her anymore and will walk away. I just don't want to give up without trying at least.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lol, man, you're so dumb. I hope she leaves you. She deserves someone who won't toy with her.

[Asker]

People can change for the better too. I'm not playing this time.

[lightbulb27]

from what I read, go to therapy first, then consider talking to her.

I don't prank people. once you blow trust, it's hard to rebuild... possible, but hard.

the only way your behavior changes is by you making changes and demonstrating it. sounds like you blew that... I got lost in what seems a drunken tyrade of sadness and remorse.

So get help for why you think joking around and screwing with people is love. If I had to make a guess at your behavior, people hurt your feelings by pranking, so you do that to others. maybe you have difficulty with intimacy. If so, you need to work on that before you attempt to give your love and devotion to a girl. some girls could handle that, but many can't.

[Asker]

I've changed ever since seeing her get hurt by my last prank I ever did. That was 2 years ago and I haven't done any pranks ever since. It took me long to mature. As to why I just to prank others, I was just to be a class clown for the longest. My classmates at school knew me as the funny guy, as the joker. Nothing bad happened to me. I was just not used to commitment and seriousness until I really hurt her and that was the end of my pranking years.

I really need to see her. It's super important, it means so much to me that I'll miss my day of work tomorrow if that's what it'll take to drive an hour to her house and win her back. I need to ask her the question again.

[Asker]

I regret pranking her with the question 2 years ago. I hurt her badly that day. This time it's for real. I'm not playing anymore.

[lightbulb27]

love is a battlefield. hurting someone. you don't want to create a domestic incident... prob have to apologize and let it rest.

[Asker]

If I showed her the proof that my intention is serious and her answer is still a NO, it's ok. I'll respect her walk away from her life and go back to the jewelry stone to return it. I won't bother her anymore. I just can't give up without trying first.

[lightbulb27]

I wish you good fortune...
Yes, it can be a battle. I had some battles with my now wife to get to stability. But don't go too far...

[Asker]

Thanks. That would be my last attempt though. I'm leaving her alone afterwards.

[lightbulb27]

don't show up on the news fella! nothing like a dozen roses delievery by horse courier...

[Asker]

It's more than roses. That was my surprise proposal.

[MrOracle]

Actions have consequences, and second chances are never guaranteed. Your chance to "fight" for your relationship was to "fight" your urge to be a prankster. You seemingly didn't fight very hard, and now you have a bad outcome - one which shocks no one.

Now you have to learn to live with the outcome of your choices. Perhaps the pain of that will teach you lessons that you haven't been able to learn any other way, and maybe you'll think twice before you make the same mistakes again. But I strongly suspect that your chances with THIS girl have been expended.

[Asker]

Yes I learned. I stopped pranking ever since my last prank hurt her badly. This time it's for real and I need to go to her house as my only chance. I need to ask her the question again. She thinks I'm joking like last time. I'm not.

[Anonymous]

I have a firm rule I live by. Never love ANYONE so much you can't do without them in your life. Sorry you're going through this man. It's a harsh lesson. But there should ALWAYS be a point with the person you love that is the breaking point. And then you walk away. Regardless of how it feels.

[Asker]

I will try one last time to win her back. This is important. I need to ask her the question again. She thinks it's a prank again because I've pranked about this 2 years ago. It's not a prank this time.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Of course, this is what consequence feels like. If you're a prankster, date a prankster. Not everyone will like your pranks. It's all fun and games 'til someone gets tired.. 😌

[Asker]

I regret ever being a prankster in the past. I need to really see her to. It's not a joke. I need to ask her the question again.

[exitseven]

Yes, if it is the real thing you will go to amazing lengths to make it work. Big deal, you have to go to her house.

[Asker]

Yes I need to ask her the question again. I have the proof (the receipt and everything) that it's for real.