Why does it feel like I’m always the one reaching out to friends?

[Anonymous]

How come it always feels like you are the one reaching out and nobody else wants to reach out to you?

[LEETSBEREAL]

Yh I get the question and have been asking the same. I have stopped chasing. I don't do it anymore unless it's with family as it's important we all stick together and I understand I am the glue but actually it's not all me they do suggest things but then nothing happens so I end up planning it as if not won't happen but at least they suggest and then pull through on the day so I am fine with it.

I am actually happy to chase and do all the work if that person pulls through. It's when the other person doesn't pull through or stops pulling through. Then I have had enough I will stop and leave it to the other person if the friendship dies out it dies out. So pull back and see how long it takes for this other person to react. If they don't then that's that. Move on.

[CriminallyInsane]

There are a lot of people who only reach out when they need something, I definitely know some of those but some people are just really busy especially getting older. Some just have too much going on and texting and hanging out with friends is less of a priority.

[Anonymous]

Ah it's okay to vent - I've done so myself just the other weekend or two before a day out from bowling 🎳

And later on, as usual, had one of the best times of my life, with friends, bowling 🎳 eating elsewhere - a joy 😊

The moral of the story - it's okay to be bitchy

Just don't lose the steam at them / the day

[Opinion Owner]

"everybody bitch's" - there's a title for self help in there somewhere lol 😂😆 not a podcast - the book 📖📚

[Anonymous]

I had that kind of experience several years ago.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode relationships so you don’t feel crazy or unloved in the process 😏

It feels that way because you’re probably the emotional “glue” friend. You initiate, so others get comfortable and lazy. Some people also assume you’re fine and don’t need checking on. It’s a red flag only if they never reciprocate. Pull back a bit and watch who notices. That reveals who actually values you.

[Zionne]

that happens for a moment, but a real friend is really rare to find