For those that don't want to be in a committed relationship, what's the reason why?

[Simslover92]

[Bricealan]

@Simslover92 'committed' means just that, and it means each has expectations of the other, and that can be problematic at times for both persons

[Shiprex]

The lure of freedom is strong.

[Shiprex]

Thanks @Simslover92 for the mho

[Simslover92]

You're welcome.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode love, dating chaos, and all the confusing in‑between stuff for you.

Many people avoid committed relationships because they crave freedom, hate feeling “tied down,” or are still healing from past heartbreak or betrayal. Some want to focus on career, mental health, or self‑growth. Others just enjoy casual fun without responsibilities. Not always a red flag, unless they lie about it or lead someone on.

[ohsheeT]

Oh I definitely want to be I just haven't put myself out there like I used to do and I never had any problems

Something is holding me back and I'm not quite sure what it is

And what's weird is it's holding me back from flirting is holding me back from just about anything to do with other people so I don't know I got to figure it out quickly

[RichardCranium6201]

You don't know what is like. Your whole life you've led a single life and are afraid of the unknown. Afraid to have your heart broken. And/or u have too many friends with benefits to tie down to 1. Because tying down to 1 you'd lose some people. Because they don't want the responsibility. The questions. They loved their freedom. And in a way it's kinda cheeper. I'm a friendly but respectful kinda guy. Most my life outside of work is lived spontaneously, and on the go... and to commit to someone would jeopardize that. Or maybe because your waiting for the '1' ' the Mr or Mrs perfect' which my opinion don't exsist. But that's another show lol

[OneViewpoint]

Lets say I don't want to avoid a committed relationship as much as I want to avoid getting into another committed relationship with the wrong person again. I'm very cautious. And meanwhile, I truly enjoy the freedom of not being responsible for another adult human and being free to do whatever I want whenever I want with whoever I want.

[lilBigPotato]

It's not that I don't want to be in a committed relationship, it's just that I'm quite picky and also not in a rush. Mostly doing short term dating right now and if I find the right one it can easily turn into something longer.

[TonyMetal___86]

You're not offering free bags of potato chips 😂

[Iron_Man]

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[TonyMetal___86]

@Iron_Man hey i haven't seen this from a long time, i wonder where he is 🤣🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

*guy

[Iron_Man]

@TonyMetal___86 He would send me a message from time to time. He had enough of the site this time. I think he’s left for good. He never takes this long to come back and now he lost his account.

[TonyMetal___86]

@Iron_Man he's funny and weird 😂

[Iron_Man]

@TonyMetal___86 Yes he is but I try to be polite with him, but he was nice to me and respectful

[TonyMetal___86]

@Iron_Man 👍🏻👍🏻

[lilBigPotato]

@Iron_Man sorry but I'm not that desperate.

[Iron_Man]

I’m just kidding with you, Miss potato

[lilBigPotato]

@Iron_Man he's back 😒

[Iron_Man]

@lilBigPotato Oh really thanks for letting me know. I’ll be on the lookout.

[Likes2drive]

at times I really don’t want to be in a committed relationship because I like my peace and freedom but at the same time if I could just find the right woman, I wouldn’t mind sharing my life and freedom with

[Nikki1989]

Some people are just not relationship-worthy. That doesn't make them bad people; it just means they have failed in that area of their life.

[DonaldDarko]

I don't have any faith in the male female dichotomy. The whole thing is on a brutal reptile level. It might be the worst human trait.

[Abbycado]

That definitely doesn’t describe me. I guess some it is not a priority?

[TonyMetal___86]

Your priority now is an avocado 😂

[Intelligent_Lady]

I think it’s because they are irresponsible and not ready to take commitment seriously.

[kissmyring]

I don’t feel that way about another person. Not in a romantic sense, anyway.

[Still-alive]

I definitely want to but im not stressed if it doesn't happen either. i enjoy my single life a lot.

It just has to be with the right person otherwise im happy remaining single.

[Smegskull]

Government.
I wouldn't mind being in a committed relationship if it was private but because the government regulates and places obligations between us that we may not wish to agree to, I just avoid them.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Name this government please, the one intrusive enough that its ruling goes all the way to your relationships

[Smegskull]

British. Though I think the EU, US, Canada, and Australia also have cohabitation and divorce/separation laws.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Right, semantics then, committed relationships are totally private, unless one wants them public, then it's marriage

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Marriage or any alternative form of civil union

[msc545]

Because the so-called committed relationship involves legalities, no man wants to get into legal issues with a woman because he knows he's going to lose every time.

[MrChinaski]

My impression as a commitment-phile is that commitment-phobes live in fear.

[Godihateyou]

A committed relationship in America means total submission and forfeiture of half or more of you assets

[Anonymous]

Because girls I like don't like me back, and girls who like me, are not my type at all.

[_Jenny_]

@Simslover92 I enjoy being single

[Bklynbadboy12]

I just have zero tolerance for bullshit

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Selfishness

[msc545]

I prefer to think of it as prudence.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

@msc545

That's fine. I think if you keep digging you'll find you just want authority without responsibility.

[msc545]

I think you will find that commitment is the same thing as surrender. You just won't recognize it like that until it's too late.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

And what is it a person surrenders in commitment?

[msc545]

Agency.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Otherwise known as authority over oneself. Or... self control.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you also had a control freak for an ex wife.

[msc545]

No by agency what is meant is the ability to act externally not the control over oneself. That is different

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Yes... the ability to act independently of outside forces. So if you boil it down, a person with agency has authority over themselves.

[msc545]

That's not what I mean by agency. I think we have just assigned two different meanings to the word which I guess is okay.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Or you're just being a fucktard.

[msc545]

Do you think that calling people names is conducive to a reasonable discussion?

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

No. But I do find it funny.

[msc545]

I don't. I hate being called names.

[Iamcoming]

Thats hard