Do you also get tired of every conversation being about relationships?

[Anonymous]

I'm getting really tired of girls whose whole lives revolve around men. For example when I hang out with a female friend she constantly talks about the problems she has with her boyfriend. I wouldn't mind if it happened once, but she does it all the time. Or she keeps talking about random men in general I don't hang out with her to talk about men, and I don't tell her about the things I experience with my boyfriend either

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to untangle drama and help people love smarter, not louder 😉

Yeah, that’s exhausting. It’s like her whole personality is “relationship problems.” That’s emotional dumping, not bonding. Totally valid to be over it. You’re allowed to set a playful but firm boundary: “Let’s have a man-free hangout today.” If she can’t respect that, that’s a walking red flag for friendship too.

[HollyK21]

Maybe you should try being direct. You can do it gently if you’re worried about hurting her feelings, something like: “I hope you know I’m always here and happy to support you. I just feel like lately most of our conversations revolve around men. I really miss talking about our own lives how we used to”.


Or this: “I feel a bit overwhelmed when we only talk about boys and relationship drama. Could we talk about something else?”.
Even just redirecting the conversation could be thing, like: “oh that sounds like a great date, it kind of reminds me of the new episode of Love Island, did you watch it?”


I personally did the redirecting method with my friend. I think it made us drift apart which was a bit unfortunate. But overall that’s ok, because it showed me that without talking about boys or she was venting about her relationship (I never shared details about mine), we really didn’t have much in common. As I’ve gotten older I’ve definitely curated a few friendships with far more substance. Unless it’s something truly distressing then we rarely ever talk about our men and just catch up about work, life and whatever else. Those friendships are much better for me.

[There_Is_Rehab]

I get tired of people not talking about the true nature of the human psyche.

I had fucked up body tension all my life, i wouldn't say my posture was bad. The opposite. Most helpless losers walk around shrugging all the time but i walked around with my shoulders down and a billion years spent stretching exercising would not change it. Why? Because my dad was a cowardly violent fuck whom i feared. Only 1 day in my life i was relaxed not knowing why, i critiqued myself for being so relaxed that day. It was on a free field trip into the capital city in 5th grade where we had small groups guided by student's dads. Well, i was around men who care and protect. Not who exploit. I thiught so many times. Why the hell was my posture unwinded that day. But 99% of my life i am on guard ready to fight. No matter what i do. And i did absolutely everything. Except this: imagine a perfect flawless father figure. I have a real protective father figure. And it saddens me who easy relaxation is. I can feel safe and no longer dig a million conspiracy theories. My shit childhood "house owner" was not my dad. He's just a demonic sick child. My real dad is flawless and not bald.

I hope this was less tiring.

[usernameobvious]

Yep the joys of majority of people is bragging about their significant other. It can become a drainer lol or i just avoid those sorts of people who brag. Lol. If I can avoid them.

[Nikki1989]

Nope. It's rarely discussed around the people I know.

[Asker]

I wasn't talking about the people you know. I was talking about people in my own circle

[Anonymous]

Or when people only talk about their kids all day too hahaha

[Anonymous]

Sometimes, but I've never been in a relationship, so I can listen to other people talking about theirs.

[MasterKS]

I bet it is.

[usernameobvious]

Indeed man 😂