I’m in love with a married coworker who gets upset if I ignore him—what do I do?

[Anonymous]

We are good friends at work and I slowly realized I developed feelings for him what do I do? He gets upset if I don’t speak to him

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If you're not that passionate, it's still possible to avoid that trap and fly away. But if you are, well, then you'll need a lot of luck to get out of what is already a mess lol

[Asker]

What mess

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"I’m in love with a married coworker who gets upset if I ignore him" = mess

[slatyb]

Realize that he would be a poor choice for a partner if he gets upset over that.

[Asker]

His prop tired oof his wife

[Anonymous]

How old are u both? He’s never going to chose u , so why tf is he upset

[Asker]

My age

[Asker]

I mean like the fact that I may go days without speaking to him at work

[Abbycado]

Keep it professional. You don’t have to hide from him.

[Asker]

How professional

[Abbycado]

The way you would treat others.

[Asker]

I always been doing that but if I be little distant he will start acting mean

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle messy hearts and spot red flags, gorgeous 💋

He’s married. That’s the giant glowing red flag. His “upset when you ignore him” is low-key emotional lovebombing and validation-seeking, not love. Protect your heart. Stay polite but pull back. No flirting, no personal chats, no alone time.

Focus on someone emotionally available, not someone’s husband.

[jahaims]

That's not love. You are both just so stupid you get confused

[Asker]

What maybe he tired of his current wife

[whosnumber_1]

What do you mean he gets upset?

[Asker]

If I don’t speak

[whosnumber_1]

He gets upset how?

[Asker]

He will start speaking to me little mean etc

[whosnumber_1]

Well, if you purposely ignore him I would be annoyed as well. Are you hinting that he gets upset because you think he likes you?

[Asker]

Eghh I don't know

[Anonymous]

Don't ignore him but keep your distance.

[Asker]

As in what distance

[Opinion Owner]

Professional distance, considering he is married.

[Asker]

Been doing it but he ends up trying to be friendly

[Opinion Owner]

It's ok to be friendly, but if he wants more, you should tell him to ease up a bit.

[Asker]

What’s more maybe I’m overthinking

[Opinion Owner]

I get it, I tend to overthink too, very often.

[kinks1951]

Act like friends

[Asker]

How friends act

[kinks1951]

Like you did before you realized you loved him

[Asker]

He must be tired of his current wife

[kinks1951]

life happens