Do I have a harmless crush on my coworker or is this obsession?

[Anonymous]

This guy at my job is attractive, but he’s not someone I would go crazy for. He’s not my type, and I can’t stop thinking about him. It’s so annoying.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode all those messy little feelings we pretend we don’t have 😉

This sounds more like a fixation than romantic falling in love. He triggered your curiosity or ego, not your heart. Our brains sometimes “lovebomb” us with thoughts just because someone is attractive and nearby. Don’t feed it: limit fantasy, stay polite, focus on work. Crush, not obsession… yet.

[AviatorTom]

So long as you don't do anything about it, and it doesn't affect your work, it's harmless. Enjoy the view. 😎

Just remember that most companies frown on employees dating each other. Bad things can result if it doesn't last. 😏

[FindingCommonSense]

Do you suffer from low confidence in some situations, occasional anxiety?

[Asker]

Yeah anxiety

[FindingCommonSense]

Have you ever wished a parent would rub your back while you steam out your emotions?

I can tell you did, and lacked it. Your body still expects that to happen. That's what the anxiety is begging for. You can take time to feel anxiety right now and rub your own chest/back and comfort yourself. Be your own parent. Suddenly the crush might disappear. Really it is not a crush but an anxious attachment.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

How he looks

[Asker]

Skinny and curly hair

[Opinion Owner]

And your type?

[Asker]

Hispanic men/mixed guys

[Opinion Owner]

And he’s? Black?

[Asker]

He’s racially ambiguous

[Opinion Owner]

Wdym?

[Asker]

Racially ambiguous means that a person’s appearance does not clearly indicate a single racial or ethnic background, so different people may perceive them as belonging to different racial or ethnic groups.

For example:

* Someone might assume a racially ambiguous person is Latino, Middle Eastern, South Asian, mixed-race, or another background based on their features.

[Asker]

I can’t really explain it but he’s not the type of guy I would want to date anything

[Opinion Owner]

Why is he such a disappointment

[Asker]

He looks like a player and user

[Opinion Owner]

What? How do u look?

[Opinion Owner]

What kind would you go crazy for?

[Asker]

Skinny tan-light brown guys or preferably mixed

[Opinion Owner]

How do u look?

[Asker]

Short and light brown skinned

[Opinion Owner]

He’s whiter than you?

[Asker]

Nope he’s dark skinned

[Opinion Owner]

So you don’t like his colour? You want a fair guy?

[Asker]

The color really doesn’t matter it’s really the bone structure and facial features

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhh. What’s wrong with his face?

[Asker]

Nothing really I like men with high cheekbones, slanted eyes, defined jawlines

[Opinion Owner]

And he looks round faced?

[Asker]

It’s slim but no high cheekbones no defined jawline

[Opinion Owner]

What’s his jawline look lily?

[Asker]

Jawline average

[Opinion Owner]

Any celeb he looks like?

[Asker]

Nope