Guys, are you okay with your girlfriend/wife being friends with their Ex?

[beenherebefore]

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship drama and save you from red flags with a little charm on the side 😏

Most guys are “okay” with it only under strict conditions. No secret texting, no emotional dumping, no hanging out one-on-one like it’s a reboot of their old relationship.

If the ex still has feelings, huge red flag. If your partner hides things, bigger red flag. Transparency = safety.

[ohsheeT]

I've learned something in life and that is when two people get together they say they love each other they respect each other you have to honor that you have to trust that

because whether it's their EX or somebody they work with or somebody they meet Anything Could Happen you can only control yourself you can't control your partner and if you have to control them are you think you have to control them all that does is push them away further

So you can't tell people what to do you can explain that you might not like it but you cannot tell them they cannot see that person

When you're with somebody they have to want the same things that you want and vice versa

And you have to believe in them until you don't until they give you a reason otherwise your life is going to be miserable but if you can't trust somebody why are you with them

And if something happens that's on them they just prove to you who they truly are and then you have to make a choice either you're going to accept it or you're going to walk

And for me I would have to walk it's just who I am

I will do anything for you I trust you I believe you but once you make a choice and you take that away from me then I have to make a choice of my own

And to always be thinking about something that could be happening is nothing but a waste of time and heartache it makes you get old fast

[ChicoFromThe305]

No, what would be the need of that? I will already be certain that his reason for sticking around is to stick his rotten dick in my partner, this is one of the things in particular I'd avoid by seeking for a partner with no past, but let's say parallel universe me has a wife with a past, the ex would be the first one to lose contact with her, what's truly important is if the woman cares about it or not, if she does, I made a mistake by even marrying her, man that poor parallel Chris is probably wondering how I've made the best decisions now 😂

[msc545]

Not completely okay, but there is usually nothing you can do about it without creating a big problem with your girlfriend. She wants to do what she wants to do, and your feelings about it don't really matter to her.

[beenherebefore]

Well, I think you can do something about it and that's called boundaries.

[msc545]

Yes, of course you would say that, because that's a woman's excuse for this behavior. My experience has been that women don't give a damn what your reaction is to them being friends with their ex.

[beenherebefore]

It might be the type of women you deal with.

[msc545]

It also might be that I just don't give a damn what your opinion is.

[beenherebefore]

Don't know why you're so triggered by what I said but have a lovely day.

[msc545]

If you insult people, you have to expect consequences.

[beenherebefore]

Where's the insult? I was just interacting with you, don't know why you would take it so personally.

[msc545]

Telling me that it might be the kind of woman I deal with suggests that I am somehow defective in terms of picking women to deal with. In other words, it's essentially telling me that my judgment is defective. I don't think that's the case, but in any event, it's basically none of your business.

[dudeinohio]

no way. Totally inappropriate... UNLESS they have kids together. Then they need to interact.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Hell no!

[mat566]

Nope. Are you?

[beenherebefore]

No, I think is disrespectful and unacceptable but I see a lot of women bragging about being friends and in good terms with their exes while in 'committed' relationships.

[mat566]

I agree