If your partner has a same‑gender affair, does it feel like cheating?

[msc545]

So, my ex, not the most recent one, but an ex of mine, was a bisexual woman, and I knew that about her shortly after meeting her. During the time that we were seeing each other in the beginning, but before we moved in together, she spent some time with a girlfriend of hers who I had met and actually liked. It didn't bother me one bit. When we finally moved in together, sometimes when I was out of town, her girlfriend would come over and spend the night with her. Again, I welcomed this because I liked the girlfriend, and their affair didn't bother me at all. I did not feel threatened by it. Before you ask, the three of us did not sleep together. I don't think it ever was brought up, actually. You had a situation similar to this, and if so, how did it work out for you?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

As a thought experiment, it doesn't feel the same when it's same-sex, and I wonder why because breaking trust is breaking trust regardless of sex or gender...

For the fun of it, une affaire, in french, translates as a small company you own, that or it means a legal case. To mean an extramarital relationship in french, you call it a liaison

[Anonymous]

Your situation sas an open relationship because you knew about it and were ok with it. If the partner doesn’t know and hasn’t said it’s ok then it is cheating. I would never be ok with it and yeah that wouldn’t just feel like cheating it would be cheating.

[msc545]

I think in the situation that you describe when it is being concealed from and you find out then the lying becomes the biggest issue. This can happen in many situations.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Cheating is cheating yes, without mentioning that it's disgusting too!