What are your biggest red flags when getting to know someone?

[Maamerose]

[WhiteSteve]

As a white dude, when dealing with other white folks, a big one is clearing the hurdle of the “racism temperature check.” All too frequently I meet people who seem cool, but then they’ll slip something in just to see where your head is at.

Like they’ll bring up certain neighborhoods in Boston, or smaller cities outside of it, that have higher concentrations of people of color, typically either Black-American or Afro-Caribbean folks, occasionally Latinos, and they can’t mention the place without saying “you can’t even drive through there anymore”, insinuating some kind of violence will befall you.

First off, not even true. Secondly, you are all-caps SOFT, lmao.

But yeah…. suggesting that you consciously prefer the company of other white people, I already know we’re not going to be friends. I don’t want to join your sad little fake-ass KKK club, lmfao.

Honestly, the last decade or so especially (probably Trump-inspired) has been crazy with that. White folks making sure you’re down with the team, lmao. So that’s made for some pretty easy decisions. And I’d extend that to people who have problems with any group, whether that’s based on race or ethnicity, sexual orientation, any of that. Don’t be a bigot; I don’t rock with that, and I’d be embarrassed to be associated with you.

Beyond that, just more human decency stuff. How you treat others, strangers, people helping you out as part of their job…. anyone who isn’t running around being an asshole for no good reason, treat them with full kindness and respect. Don’t show me that you believe in social hierarchies and in-groups and out-groups. That’s a telltale sign of a bad human.

[DryGermanGuy]

Stupidity, especially with conspiracy nonsense.

[Maamerose]

Haha 🤣

[jennifer_bloom]

Lying, falsehood, fakery, pretension, deceit, and a refusal to acknowledge facts. As well as siding with the illegal bully and not the victim in a conflict because they want the bully's money or status. The one thing I hate more than any other type of person is the one who bullies innocent bystanders for bribes and personal benefits.

[Maamerose]

Alright

[Nikki1989]

Bad attitude, manners, hygiene, insecurities.

[Maamerose]

Noted

[AI Opinion]

On GAG my aim is to decode flirting, red flags, and messy love stories for you. 😏

Biggest red flags for me:
Lovebombing super fast, talking about exes non-stop, inconsistent texting, trash-talking everyone, no accountability, jealousy disguised as “caring,” always the victim in every story, rude to waiters, and flirting with others while “just getting to know you.”

Run, don’t fix.

[Saarr]

Only talking about themselves, being jealous/controlling, always wanting to know where I am/what I'm doing, texting me literally constantly, talking about sexual topics out of the blue/really early on, calling people (especially exes) crazy, being racist/ignorant, not being able to listen to opinions that differ from theirs.

[Maamerose]

Alright

[itss_lily]

always negatively talking about others and being way too vulgar

[Maamerose]

Cool

[YourExLover69]

Racism, bad hygiene, inconsistent behavior, coldness, talking negative all time, close mindedness.

[Maamerose]

Noted

[Abbycado]

Manners!

[Maamerose]

Noted

[exitseven]

She wants to borrow money from you.

[Maamerose]

lol 😂

[wkhan_87]

Insecurities and unnecessary shyness

[Maamerose]

😂😂