Did I get overly attach?

[Anonymous]

Guys my situationship of 3 months said he doesn't want a relationship he wants to focus on his career i gave my every effort to him ne never planned date or tried to see me still i am emotionally attached to him and i did try to reachout but he seen zoned me i see his following rise up and following new girls its breaking my heart i fear he's on dating app again I don't know why i sometimes feel like i should open one account again yo but then i go like nahh i can't afford meaningless attachments again (pls be nice) i feel embarrassed seeing myself like this but.. :( i see his following just rise up and up.. but he was attached too ik but..

[HollyK21]

It helps to not overly-invest without first receiving a title, aka, not putting all your eggs in one basket so soon. If you’re someone who’s very eager to have a relationship already, then you may been impatient, not have covered your bases how you should’ve and instead just dove head-first into falling in love and giving him your all. Don’t do that for someone who isn’t your boyfriend, especially after 3 months girl this is way too soon.

[Asker]

What do i do? Now

[HollyK21]

Unpack your feelings about it, that’s what I do when I’m trying to work through something on my mind. You have a certain kind of attachment issue that didn’t happen over night, so get to the bottom of that. Figure out where it started, if someone caused it, how that experience made you feel, and go from there. I’d also try to understand why I’m so specifically attached to him. Like is it even all about him? Or is it about being tired of dating? Because usually that is what makes women stick it out and try so hard — they want to find their person already. Thing is, you can’t make him your person if he isn’t interested. You just have to start telling yourself that it’s over, delete him off your social media so you aren’t watching everything he does, and focus on yourself.

[Asker]

The feelings can't be changed like this

[HollyK21]

Not overnight, it takes time and effort, but you can get there. It’s more affective than telling yourself “no no no” or “I can’t do it I can’t let him go”.

[Anonymous]

Yes but it happens to everyone at some point. Don't be afraid to try again.

[Asker]

I can't i cannot move on from him and i dont wnna use dating apps anymore while he follows new people i want to give someone my fullest

[Opinion Owner]

Almost no one gets it right the first time. Dating apps are never as good as meeting people naturally.

[Asker]

Girl pls help me out what do i do i am crashing out

[melnc]

Making peace with yourself is the only way to move through this.

[Asker]

How :( what do i do i dont want to even cut ties w him but stay unbotherd

[melnc]

You don't miss him. You miss (yourself ) the feeling. And that feeling didn't come from him, it came from you. Accept that it was a wrong choice, not a life sentence. You don't have to cut ties to move on, you just have to stop feeding the hope. Let him be. He's not your peace. You are.

[Asker]

Thankyou for saying this really🥹

[melnc]

Save the thank you. Buy me chocolate milk and we're even

[melnc]

Hey
You good?

[Asker]

I mean yesss kindaaa thankyou for asking🩷

[melnc]

Good. Just don't hesitate if something comes up.

[Asker]

Ok give me tips on how to even move on from this guy?

[melnc]

I'm not gonna give you the basic "go to the gym" or "keep yourself busy" or "find someone else" advice. That's all temporary fixes like a Band-Aid on a bullet wound. The second you're alone at night with your thoughts, all that stuff goes out the window and you're right back where you started.
You see people out here who can't get over their ex years later. Years. And it's not because that person was so special, it's because they never shifted how they see the whole situation.
You gotta change your whole perspective on what that relationship even was. Your problem right now isn't even about him anymore. I hate to break it to you, but it's about you, and your inability to accept what is.

There are things happening around you right now. Opportunities. Moments. New connections. But you're so locked in on the wrong thing that you're letting all of it slip through your fingers.
Just be your own best friend. Because at the end of the day, you're the only one who can actually get yourself to safety. No one's coming to save you.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy heart stuff without losing your sparkle. 😉

You’re not “overly attached,” you’re just attached to the wrong guy. He gave you clear info: no relationship, no effort, no dates. That’s a red flag parade.

Your heart is grieving the fantasy, not the reality. Mute/unfollow him, don’t stalk his followers, and don’t rush into dating apps just to numb the pain. Heal, glow up, and let the next guy match your effort, not your heartbreak. 💋

[Anonymous]

He’s the guy , if he doesn’t have that urgency towards you he doesn’t like u

[Sickworld]

Give it up to faith and wait

[MrChinaski]

Learn. Move on. Same as everyone.

[MasterKS]

you being glue, grow up.