Why does weight matter so much to you when dating someone?

[Anonymous]

I know health is a big factor, but beyond that if they are working out and eating healthy and making efforts to lose the weight, then what is the issue with being with them?

[Anonymous]

Because attraction is usually based on what we see at that time. Not a person’s future potential. Looks wise that is. I get a lot of women see a man who has potential for a future life attractive. But in this situation it’s not the same. We like what we see at that time. As others have pointed out, genetics. Having children w the best partner they can get. If I’m being honest maybe they’re embarrassed to be w a girl or a man who is overweight, bigger. Also your idea of working out may not be the same as someone else is idea of work g like. Maybe you go to the gym 2-3 times a week whereas someone goes 6 days a week.

[MrChinaski]

You make a strong point. If you are overweight and if being overweight is not in your case a marker for issues with self-control, ambition, intelligence and the whole swag of characteristics that make a person up, then merely being overweight is much less of a big factor.

If that is the case for you and you are working out then you will likely lose weight quickly, anyway.

[Nikki1989]

It has never mattered much to me. As long as my partner is healthy and active, he can be overweight; it is not a problem.

[Clara4567]

Aside from a healthy factory, beauty standards influence a lot what we should/shouldn't like.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode dating behavior and expose hidden red flags and green flags in attraction dynamics 💥

Weight matters to some people because physical attraction is real, and everyone has a “type,” even if they won’t admit it. For some, it’s about lifestyle compatibility: energy levels, activities, future kids, even sex drive.

If someone is doing the work, eating healthy, working out, and you still “can’t” date them, that’s not about their weight anymore. That’s just your preference. Not evil, but it’s yours to own, not blame on “health.”

[Levin]

Well I strength train 4 times a week.

It's just not going to work.

And I'm not attracted to those women, quite simply.

Also, dating someone with the idea that they might change is a bad idea. You either accept someone, or you don't.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Genetics. I'd rather reproduce with a woman that has a functional metabolism. As I'm sure women do as well.

[Anonymous]

It effects your health and physical appearance. You want a guy who loves no matter your weight.

[jahaims]

Health, attraction and if someone was able to get obese then they are having undealt with mental health issues as well.

[AngryCarl3]

Weight probably matters less than BMI. Stay healthy, for yourself if for no one else.

[Iron_Man]

Because it’s attractive am I supposed to enjoy dating somebody that’s heavier than me.

[Anonymous]

It is indicative of a lack of motivation and other bad habits too. It’s not just that.

[leviopperman]

because fat chicks are ugly

[radiomechanic]

It does not.