Do you have a secret/secrets about your past that you've never told your spouse?

[ManOnFire]

About anything. Maybe you guys have always been open and honest with each other and you believe in honesty, but there's at least one thing from your past that you've never told them. Has this been your case?

[Sal_Monella]

Yes. My wife is #4. She believes she is #3. I did not what to muddy the water unnecessarily. #2 has little evidence in my life unless the FBI investigates me. No children, no crime. I did file tax returns naming her.

[ManOnFire]

Wow. Married 4 times.

[Sal_Monella]

I'm a Hollywood star in my mind. I just was never discovered.

[Jewelmyth]

You lied to your wife, that's hurtful and unacceptable.

[Sal_Monella]

@Jewelmyth I didn't lie. I just omitted some information. #4 and I have been together 18 years.

[AviatorTom]

Don't we all? A skeleton in every closet... 🙊🙉🙈

[MemeSupreme]

yeah

some things are better left unsaid and i don’t feel like sharing. also if its like someone else’s secret, then i have to respect their privacy lol

[Anonymous]

There is something if he asked I would be honest about but since he has never asked, I have not gone out of my way to bring it up.

[ManOnFire]

I can understand that.

[blueonblack22]

The thing about bad decisions it’s impossible for someone to truly understand your state of mind that lead to it.

Does it make the bad decision acceptable? Of course not. But the other person is going to view it differently than you did.

The real questions are:

1) does that bad decision have any bearing on your current relationship?

2) have you owned up to this mistake with whoever / whatever it was at the time (if you hurt someone else did you make remedies?)

3) if you are a spiritual person did you confess your sins?

From a Christian POV it says you have to confess your sins. But does the mean to multiple people or more then once?

There are some very dark and deep secrets I have privately confessed only to someone I 100% trusted. I don’t care to bring it up again to someone else who won’t be able to understand me vs. the one person I trusted.

But one of the more recent problems in modern society is people are confusing understandable vs. acceptable. So either people are expecting to be completely absolved for a past bad decision because of “their feelings” OR they have to completely bury it given no one will ever forgive them (lack of understanding). Forgiving someone isn’t the same as saying their decision was “okay”. It’s acknowledging it was wrong but still loving them nonetheless because they owned up to it.

But our secularization of modern society is screwing this all up. Jesus was the example you need to follow on this.

[rose_noire]

I think everyone does.

Not because they are dishonest, but because not everything from your past is relevant to your present.

Some things are just old chapters that are closed.

The distinction I make is this, privacy keeps peace.

Secrecy that affects trust, health, or who you are today, breaks intimacy.

If a secret would change how your spouse gets to choose you, it deserves to be told.

[ManOnFire]

Good points.

[Anonymous]

Yes. That is jerked off to her fbook profile

[ManOnFire]

Lmfao. I don't see why you can't tell her that. If you're dating her that is.

[Shiprex]

Yes there is something that happened to me she does not know about although she perhaps suspects something though it doesn't have any significance of who we are

[gasman70]

at this point, I've never not told her anything about my life that would be of any significance. I've told her the most shameful parts the most hard parts, the worst parts about my past. She's seen me crumble and watch me succumb to something horrible because of my past and the wound I carry that's turned into something that I wouldn't want to put onto another, because it turned shame into survival and it thrives in my head like a giant pile of stinky shit.

[Kassandra1994]

I made a love spell on my ex fiance and that it backfire after a while a friend of mine who knows how to managed with these situation set me free I left my ex fiance free he is history now.

[OneViewpoint]

There were lots of things I couldn't tell my spouse. And she knew she couldn't ask. But then she didn't really want to know. It worked.

[ManOnFire]

Sounds like government stuff.

[Laulenke]

Nope I told my wife everything even before we got married

[NathanDavis]

nope... I don't really have "things to hide"

[queenofcardio]

The guy I was with the longest knew pretty much everything.

[Oldschool1981]

I don't tell my wife that I've been with over 700 prostitutes before we met.

[ManOnFire]

Jeeeeeezis...700? Yeah I wouldn't tell her either honestly.

[LiamJHayden]

No spouse, but I am an open book so there would be none.

[Anonymous]

No but I have secrets I will keep from all girlfriends

[MrChinaski]

Nope. She knows everything.

[rgb008]

Yeah gotta keep a little mystery alive hehe

[exitseven]

No, she knows it all.

[thund3rlight]

we all have secrets

[Kelly6]

@ManOnFire nope, I’m fully honest

[November4th]

Only answer to what’s asked.

[236color]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Nope.