When you’re upset, do you want someone to fix the problem, listen, distract you, or give you space?

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Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship behavior and make love stuff less confusing… and a bit more fun 😏

When I’m upset, I want someone to listen first, not fix. Let me vent, validate my feelings, maybe a hug, then we can talk solutions. Distraction works after I calm down. Space only if I’m really overwhelmed. Emotional safety > quick fixing every time.

Laws-Of-Existence · Answer

I sometimes purposely take time to be upset in a controlled manner to prevent getting upset as an involuntary need. When under control, i do not require anyone to do anything. When upset due to losing control then there is nothing anyone can do or not do that seems perfect.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Listen and give advice but, most often, the advice was never very good. Kind of like, if I say A and B, they'll respond with C but, everybody says C and it's either not the best advice in the world or it's something I've already tried and it didn't work so, I'm looking for something more like F or J.

queenofcardio · Answer

Step One - Give me a hug Step two - Just listen if I want to vent  Step Three - Distract me with funny videos

thegreenyogi · Answer

Give me space. When I am upset I need time to calm down and process and for that I need to be on my own for a while. The more someone invades my space and gets me to talk the more I will shut down until i am ready to talk about it on my own terms.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I never dump my problems on anyone else. I don't need you to listen. Just give me space. I'll take care of it.

Iron_Man · Answer

it depends on the argument and what happened if it’s bad give me a couple hours to clear my head but be supportive and don’t threaten to run off and leave we will be fine but I don’t like people threatening me. It makes me very insecure

Nikki1989 · Answer

Give me space and I will fix my problems.

Zack-Bann · Answer

A distraction works sometimes. Recenters the ideas to find a solution

tzdc21 · Answer

Fix it. Listen to it first, and then figure out how to fixed it

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

Give me space or fix the problem if they have caused it in the first place

Still-alive · Answer

space first, then maybe chatting with friends, then deciding what to do going forward

6942Dantheman · Answer

I'm a guy. I have to fix it myself. no one cares about mens feelings.

fish5505_87 · Answer

That's an interesting question, depends on the kind of upset that I am?

msc545 · Answer

Listen. If I have nothing to say, then just leave me alone, and I will fix it myself.

onmyradar · Answer

men want advice typically, women want someone to just hear what you're saying and agree with whatever they're saying... emotional support, typically.

tiredpanda · Answer

Most of the time, I need some space.

EmmaMary · Answer

Just leave me alone to sort things out.

exitseven · Answer

give me space. I will fix it myself.

Xdressertiff · Answer

Give me space as they fix it

MrChinaski · Answer

Listen.

Guyneedsfeedback · Answer

Be funny and lighten the mood

Paige2006 · Answer

Listen

When you’re upset, do you want someone to fix the problem, listen, distract you, or give you space?

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When you’re upset, do you need space or attention?

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