Is it more important to be deeply loved or truly understood?

[Veronika_p]

Being deeply loved means having someone who genuinely cares about you. They want you in their life, worry about you, support you, miss you, protect what you have together, and stay when things get difficult. There’s something comforting about knowing someone’s heart is truly invested in you.

But love has its weaknesses too. 💔 Someone can love you and still not understand you. They might care deeply but misunderstand your silence, your boundaries, your fears, or the reasons behind the way you behave. You can be loved and still sometimes feel emotionally alone.

Being deeply understood is something completely different. It’s when someone seems to see the person behind your words. They understand your personality, your reactions, your insecurities, your need for space, your sense of humor, and even the things you struggle to explain.

But understanding has its own limitation. Someone can know you extremely well without having the same emotional attachment to you. They can understand your heart without actually wanting to hold it. 🥀

Love says: “You matter to me.”

Understanding says: “I see who you really are.”

And honestly, I think both are beautiful in completely different ways

[ohsheeT]

It's as if you just told my life story and I have accepted it that not all people will see the real me

But it's not all about me it's about seeing this and then going to the next step and the next step is unconditional love

Because it's not about somebody loving me it's about how I love others

And how I see others so for me unconditional love is knowing and understanding both because both are important

So you have to understand both you have to know both to know the real person and for me that's unconditional love

And in doing so it's not the words that you use it's the feeling that you give of understanding protection boundaries speaking with your eyes and commitment itself of self

And I wouldn't be able to give this if I didn't From myself from knowing me And knowing that people don't have the Insight that you have to even go there to even think about that

So an understanding myself and loving myself is the only way that I could get to unconditional love and just become that that's my life your life anybody's life that has gone through this misunderstanding of who you might be

You have to love yourself first you have to understand yourself first Before you can love Our understand anybody else to the best abilities that you can to give 100% of yourself to anybody

[Laws-Of-Existence]

I think it is important not to view love like a source of endorphins when real life is too painful to face. That's no different than being a drug addict. ㅤ

[sage2021]

That's why I believe that good communication between each other is important. Sometimes people think that the other person is a mind reader and they are not!!

If you want and need someone to understand you then you are going to have to be a good communicator to help the person to understand you and why you do what you do, etc.

It's great when you can be in a relationship with someone who deeply loves you and with your help, understands you as well.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[thegreenyogi]

I think for me personally I'd need an equal balance between the two because they are two different things but I don't think if a deep connection is what one seeks you can't have one without the other. I see them as being interconnected somehow.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!!

[NathanDavis]

I just don't believe that one can "love you deeply" but the don't even understand you

I just think that's something else.. different to love

"why do you love me so much?" " I have no idea, I don't even get you... I don't understand you" to me, this is not love... this is a very toxic and problematic relationship with two people fooling themselves... and as you said it, if you don't really see someone as who, they are... then you don't really love them, you love the idea of them, or something else you get out of them

[Veronika_p]

Someone could love you for looks, how you talk, how you smile or laugh... Without really understanding you

[NathanDavis]

yeah... and that's a more superficial love

not a deeply one

[Anonymous]

Understood.

Because in general someone who takes rhe time to understand you DOES love you. Where that person might go wrong is they're trying to understand the wrong person. Some people simply can't get out of their own head when it comes to relationsips. They think the grass is always greener on the other side, and tgat they can do a little better. And that is typically why they never find true and lasting happiness.

[Nik1hil]

It's not important to be "Truly understood" it's very important that I be "Deeply loved".. by my partner.. she doesn't need to understand me

[OneViewpoint]

Loved would be nice. I don't expect anyone to understand me. However at this point I'm not holding my breath on the love thing. Nice concept. But experience says it doesn't exist outside of our fantasies.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The former appealed to me when I was younger. Somewhere on the road, it became insufficient for me. These days I value understanding much more, so much more than whatever intensity of feelings

[exitseven]

I would rather be loved. Nobody understands me anyway.

[TonyMetal___1986]

A combination of both, you have to understand me in order to be able to love me...

[DonaldDarko]

Deeply loved otherwise those who understand you may hate you for what they know or just not care at all.

[lightbulb27]

Loved but the other is a close 2nd as it ends up with respect for how screwed up I/we are.

[SamIam96]

It's difficult to imagine one without the other.

Is there a reason you have to choose?

[Shiprex]

To be deeply loved because the onus is on the other to show you rather than me becoming more accurate in language

[Staximus]

Does somebody truly love you if they don’t truly understand and know you?

[Veronika_p]

Yes... People love people even without knowing them... People get obsessed with celebrities they barely know

[Staximus]

That’s not love, that’s just infatuation and stupid

[Veronika_p]

I just need you to know that someone can truly love you without understanding you

[bradyhawkesjr73]

The latter, to Brady Hawkes' handsome black son, Brady Jr.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Id rather be deeply loved. What about you?

[Veronika_p]

Truly understood

[dudeinohio]

I go with love.

[Paige2006]

Both

[Pterodon]

Understood