Is it normal for my boyfriend to sleep at 8:30 and forget our anniversaries?

[Anonymous]

I can’t understand why my boyfriend falls asleep every night at 8:30 i invited him to come over and eat he wasn’t ready and then stopped answering and I know he’s sleeping. I find it rude it makes me sad and I kinda just want to block him on everything. He doesn’t get me anything for our anniversary’s like 3 months or 4 months nothing he didn’t even remember the date we started dating. I’m sad I’m scared I’ll be alone forever

[Mypersonalopinion]

Take a step back first and foremost. You can't control another person, so try not to let your emotions run away with the situation. Talk to him and tell him honestly how this makes you feel. If spending more time together and remembering important dates matters to you, he should know that. If he cares about you, hopefully he will make an effort to accommodate you where he can.

At the same time, you don't know what might be going on with him. Maybe he's exhausted, maybe he's dealing with something he hasn't felt comfortable sharing yet, or maybe he simply has a different routine than you do. Sleeping a lot can sometimes be associated with depression, although you can't know that just from his sleeping habits. I used to sleep a lot when I was depressed, so I know it can be a sign, but I wouldn't jump to that conclusion without talking to him first.

And try not to catastrophize this into "I'm going to be alone forever." That's a huge conclusion to draw from one relationship. Being able to be alone and genuinely enjoy your own company is an important life skill. You don't have to decide right now whether this relationship is going to last forever. Have the conversation, see how he responds, and then decide what you want to do based on his actions.

[Anonymous]

lol he if was smart he’d find someone else. You sound too clingy. An anniversary at 3 months? Maybe try a year first. You’d probably be doing him a favor by breaking up w him. Sounds like you have abandonment issues.

[Anonymous]

3 and 4 month "anniversaries" are not a big deal. If you want to block someone for going to sleep at their normal time, you may very well end up alone forever.

[rgb008]

It’s normal. 8:30-9 is our bedtime too haha but we’re older. And we only celebrate yearly anniversaries.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode relationship behavior and protect your heart, gorgeous 💋

No, this doesn’t sound normal for a caring boyfriend. Sleeping at 8:30, ignoring invites, forgetting anniversaries, not making effort? That’s low-effort, borderline bare-minimum energy, not lovebombing, not real falling in love.

You’re not “too much”; he’s giving too little. You won’t be alone forever, but you might stay lonely with him. You deserve someone who remembers dates, answers calls, and actually shows up.

[slatyb]

Three months is not an anniversary. The root of "anniversary" is "annum" which means year.

Anyway, it sounds like a match made in hell. End it.

[WhitneySnow]

He doesn’t sound like much of a boyfriend. It’s possible he has a girlfriend he lives with.

[Likes2drive]

Maybe he works a lot of hours and he is just really tired

[Asker]

He’s unemployed

[Likes2drive]

Oh, then, I guess he doesn’t have any excuse for that behavior, why in the world is he going to bed so early if he doesn’t even work

[Anonymous]

I hope you will be alone forever. Show some respect

[jahaims]

You sound crazy