My boyfriend uses drugs and blames me for starting—what should I do?

[Anonymous]

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5 h

I don’t do drugs by the way

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you see the red flags clearly and protect your heart, gorgeous.

If he’s using drugs and blaming you, that’s manipulation and pure deflection, not love. His addiction is his responsibility, not yours. Set firm boundaries, protect your mental health, and consider walking away if he refuses real help. You’re a partner, not his rehab or his excuse.

[AviatorTom]

You use drugs, don't you? And he followed your example.

If you want him to stop drugs, you need to stop too. Work out a pact with him. Support each other so that you both stop using drugs. You'll be better off if you do.

[Asker]

I don’t do drugs at all

[AviatorTom]

Then I am confused. What did you do to make him think that you got him started on drugs?

[Asker]

Nun we get in arguments n he said that

[Asker]

We had issues In our relationship 2 years where I had talk to another man n he still think about it. But I got tired of how he treated me so I talk to someone else.

[Laws-Of-Existence]

Torture him. No seriously. Blaming you, whether there is even a sliver of truth to it or a lot of truth or zero truth, in all cases blaming you is a pussy step, he is seeking comfort, and seeking the easy way out is exactly what causes drug addiction. If you torture him (but NOT in a fetishizable way, do NOT make it possible for him to indulge in masochism) to teach him to quit trying to find joy 24/7, and step into sorrow. That's the only way for him to quit using drugs. And cease blaming you. ㅤ

And then break up on top of that. Probably.

[Anonymous]

If you didn't give them to him in the first place, it's obviously not your fault. Whether it's to help him manage sleep and boredom or jury rigged mental treatment, it was entirely his choice. Regardless of what you did to him, he is responsible for faltering. If he expects to continue a relationship with you, he should be fully ready to reduce his reckless behavior.

[Asker]

So u think it’s best to break up with him or stick by his side

[WhitneySnow]

Break up with him. He’s probably a narcissist or a psychopath.

[WhitneySnow]

Defo leave him

[Staximus]

Anything besides weed and alcohol you should leave him