I ask if I can see him. He replies with “Maybe. later.”… everything I research about addicts, I know he’s no longer the same person I was with, but that that person is still in there. I do not want to just abandon him, but I also do not want to enable him. I know that statistically addicts have a 40-60% chance of relapsing and that number lessens the longer they’ve been sober.
Just… what can I do for him now? I am devastated that I lost my best friend and partner at the same time. I just want him to know that he’s loved and that I’m not going to abandon him. But these are things I want to say to his face, but I also don’t want to say it if he uses that as a crutch to keep relapsing. I have no idea where his mind is as far as if it was just a slip up and wants to continue with sobriety or if he is going to do drugs until he hits rock bottom or kills himself.
I am deeply worried about him because he is also very suicidal. He threw himself in front of traffic before we met and had to get surgery on his elbow. I just want him back… what can I do at this point? I feel like I’m mourning a person who still lives… I mourn the beautiful life we were creating for each other, I mourn his inner child… and his future going down this path.
Please show some compassion. I will not just leave him so please don’t even suggest that.