Why is my girlfriend distant after I fought a former friend over her?

[KindaCowardly]

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to clarify yes it was a physical fight and I did lose. she was there as well.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode relationship chaos and stop you from stepping on emotional landmines 🔥

She’s distant because that fight didn’t feel romantic to her, it felt scary, childish, or like drama she didn’t ask for. Huge red flag for many women. She might feel guilty, pressured, or even responsible.

Best move: apologize, own your part, tell her you want peace not fights, and show emotional control instead of “protective” aggression. That’s what actually makes her feel safe.

[sage2021]

Did the fight happen recently and right after the fight happened she became distant?

I think that you did the right thing by confronting the friend. However, since you got beat up pretty bad, and lost the fight, she might not think that you can protect her, so she might not think that you are who she thought you are.

Your username kinda says that about you.

And since she actually saw the fight, and how he was beating you up, she might be feeling a bit embarrassed by seeing you lose, and watching the fight and how you actually fought could show her how strong you aren't.

Girls want to feel protected by their guy and she isn't feeling like you can do that, even though you tried.

[KindaCowardly]

okay

[KindaCowardly]

it was a couple days ago and she became distant right away snd my user name was randomized by the way

[KindaCowardly]

what should I do tho? like what would you do?

[sage2021]

I think that you have to have a conversation with her about all of it.

What do you mean your username was randomized?

[KindaCowardly]

it was the name on a throwaway reddit account I used for GAG. So i copied it from that but it was still generated randomly. and yhanks.

[slatyb]

What do you mean "you fought a former friend"? Physically? That's just scary.

[KindaCowardly]

he clocked me hard in the jaw first then pushed me to the ground. what should I have done? 😂

[slatyb]

Wow? I would have called the police.

[Stormy_Moon]

She probably liked your former friend. Or she's probably had trauma from fights. I wouldn't overthink it, bro. I know just how hard it is to get over the ones you love.

[KindaCowardly]

i’m wondering if him beating me is making her feel some type of way towards him I don't know 🤷‍♂️

[whosnumber_1]

Perhaps you behaved like a neanderthal, and she realized she prefers homosapiens

[KindaCowardly]

perhaps. or maybe I was just trying to defend my girlfriend and then myself.

[Anonymous]

We don’t like that as much as you guys wish we did

[KindaCowardly]

he was touching her and I told him to chill out with that and that it wasn’t cool then he UFC’d my ass. What should I have done differently?

[Anonymous]

Fought? What happened

[KindaCowardly]

I got my a** beat

[Opinion Owner]

But why?

[KindaCowardly]

he touched her i told him to stop so he attacked me

[Nikki1989]

Women don't like immature men.

[KindaCowardly]

what do you mean?

[Anonymous]

Ask her

[KindaCowardly]

“Can we please just not talk about it” - her

[Opinion Owner]

Ok..