Would anyone care?

[Anonymous]

Im alone and have no friends, people minimize my feelings and deny my lived experience. I appreciate the advice

I appreciate people trying to help, but most haircuts cuts are not going to look good on me. I have a long face and oddly shaped skull from being a 25 week old prem. This explains why I look weird or off. Im not an attractive guy and Im ugly its okay. This explains the bullying and the treatment I received in school, at work, and in nursing school. It also explains why my feelings have always gone unrequited and why women used me for validation, minimized my feelings, discarded them and then tried to gaslight me. Being ginger has not helped with this at all it makes me stand out and not in a good way. I would already be ugly if I wasn't ginger. If I were a good looking guy I would have had high social value, social proof and wouldn't have been treated this way.

[Genie23]

Hey there, I'm so sorry you feel this way. I don't think you look as bad as you think you do. Nobody looks perfect, and that's okay. Also, whether you look attractive or not, it doesn't give anyone the right to bully you, mistreat you or minimise your feelings.

Do you approach people? Or do you get too shy/nervous to approach? Everybody needs at least one friend in life. It makes our life bit easier. I really hope you step out of your comfort zone and become friends with someone someday.

[Genie23]

Thank you for MHO!

[Agape93]

I remember you when you used to post your pics on here years ago. I said then and ill say again. You're not ugly, you have fuck all for confidence.

[Asker]

I dont have a reason to be with how others have treated me

[Agape93]

Do you value the opinions or views of those assholes in any other aspect of your life?

[Asker]

No but why treat me that way unless it because I was an easier target because they thought I was odd looking

[Asker]

*was

[Agape93]

If you dont value what they think or say at ANY other aspect of life, why the fuck would you give them that power over this?

[Asker]

You're right I shouldn't but its hard

[Agape93]

So what?

[Asker]

Im looking into therapy to go along with asking for an increase to my mirtazapine. The problem is therapy is so expensive, but I need it to work through past trauma and start building confidence. I might not like how I look but that doesn't mean other people will agree. Im sorry for not listening to you or your friend earlier.

[Asker]

Im not okay my grandmother just passed and my aunt has cancer and I was already depressed before this.

[Asker]

I have an intake appointment for psychotherapy next week and Im asking for an increase in dosage of my medication

[Asker]

You and your friend were right, just because I think Im ugly doesn't mean that women do. Calling myself ugly is just denying and minimizing what you and your friend said and for that Im genuinely sorry.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to be the guy who tells you the truth your insecurities keep muting. So let me be blunt, handsome.

People didn’t bully, use, or ghost you because you’re “ginger” or “ugly.” They did it because they’re immature, selfish, or emotionally stunted. That’s on them, not your face.

You’re confusing looks with worth and rejection with proof. That’s a nasty mental lovebomb… from yourself.

Plenty of “average” or “weird-looking” guys are in happy relationships, married, loved, desired. Their secret isn’t bone structure, it’s self-worth, boundaries, and not chasing people who treat them like a backup plan.

Your looks may affect first impressions, but they don’t explain years of letting people minimize, gaslight, and use you. That pattern is about not knowing your value and not walking away from red flags.

You deserve someone who doesn’t just “tolerate” you, but lights up to see you. And that starts with you not talking about yourself like you’re some defective product on clearance.

Someone would care. But you have to start caring first, or you’ll keep attracting people who treat you exactly how you treat yourself.

[Asker]

A nursing instructor literally told me to my face, "I took one look at you and decided I was going to fail you". How does this not explain that Im ugly? She decided to hate me based on seeing my face

[NoDecision]

You are talking to G@G's AI personality. But I can't disagree with what he said. The only thing I can think of adding is getting some facial reconstruction with a plastic surgeon. That could give your self-esteem a boost. It is not cheap, but it might be well worth it. You could also start a GoFundMe account to help pay the costs.

[Pedromanx2]

it sounds like the worried nature is talking. People are just condescending and impressing somebody is not a useful tactic. You put in a strong front and they will look back on you.

Some forget about us though and if your bullied than let'em. No point in fighting adults with mental age of children.

[RingOfFire]

There is only one way to handle this and its not by focusing on your looks, it's by focusing on your confidence. Relationships are about a lot more than looks. Who cares about social value, what matters is how you value yourself. And you are the one in control of that. Look inside yourself. What do you see? The bad part is that you are responsible for changing it. The good part is that you have the power to change it.

[LazerBean]

Giving you advice would be pointless, because you would just make an excuse to not take it.

[Asker]

Normal styling tips wouldn't work. I dont have a fully formed skull

[Asker]

I also dont have typical hair

[LazerBean]

Yep, thanks for proving my point

[Nikki1989]

Man up. People don't like crybabies.

[moddy_the_mod]

Generally, no. No one cares. You have to manage your own life and make changes to make friends. You have to minimize your self esteem issues. No one else can do that for you.

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone care about what exactly? Your actual question is unclear

[In_Trance]

Nope