My boyfriend is infatuated with his new hot neighbor.

[Anonymous]

So this couple in their 30's are renting the house next to my boyfriend. Apparently the girl (or woman) is pretty hot and blond, of course. I haven't seen her yet. All of the sudden, my formerly depressed boyfriend (age 47) is all giddy. It seems as though now he does anything he can to just be outside so if she comes out he can talk to her. It's not like he thinks he has a chance with her, but it over the top sickening. I'm not sure what to think about this. Help me out. I know I'm hot 'cause everyone tells me I am so why am I jealous? Not sure why I'm having anxiety over this but it is driving me crazy.

[Oldermanwhohaslived]

Your Jealous because he is showing attention to her and not you, that is natural. The thing is is that this just might pass, or she is leading him on because she likes the attention. You need to let him know how you feel and if this is how he continues to act maybe you should think about letting him go. There is nothing wrong with checking out other people when you are in a relationship but you don't get caught up in flirting with others especially in front of the person you are seeing, that is just wrong. everyone looks but if you respect and love your mate you never act on the feelings.

[Asker]

Thanks. I appreciate your answer.

[untypical-joe]

your damn right you should be jealous, other wise you don't care about him or your relationship. This shows imaturity on his part and gives an opportunity to question his attraction and desire to your relationship. Confront his disrespect. Tell him to go on over and have an affair if that's what he really wants and he can come back and pick up his divorce papers onthe way over there. Where is his love? its' not all that deep.. tell him he needs to start digging cause his love is showing very very very shallow.

[Asker]

Thank you. You crack me up. It's nice to get answers from guys in my age group. :)

[rachiee]

Of course you're going to be jealous and that's normal. Your boyfriend's behavior is not normal. You need to let him know how it makes you feel. He needs to respect you and at least not make it so obvious that he's going out of his way to see this other woman. A lot of times, a depressed person will latch onto something that gives them a "natural high." It sounds like seeing this woman and talking to her is what is giving him an adrenalin rush and is making him feel happy.

[Anonymous]

Depressed people sometimes chase a new chemical high. A new flirtation is like using drugs or alcohol to take the edge off. He needs to get help for his depression before it leads him down the wrong path. It's not you, though ... it's just that someting "new" gives a bigger jolt of chemicals that something "familiarl."

[Asker]

He's on meds already. But he still gets bouts of depression. So how long b4 he's over this girl and back to being his normal depressed self?

[Opinion Owner]

Who knows? Guys feel entiteld to sexual adventure. Can you use his excitement to your advantage and get some extra sex?

[Asker]

Oh, I just saw her a little while ago and she's not that hot. It's funny how guys just see a girl from a distance, they have long blond hair so they automatically think she's hot. I talked to her a little bit cause she was out with her dog. She is nice though.

[untypical-joe]

tie him up and give him a good caning, this should improve his attitiude.

[islands7]

USE IT !

Not only let him get all hot & bothered over her, encourage it and even have them over for cocktails/dinner. Once she goes home to her stud, you'll have your stud's motor running, ready to drive you into a frenzy. Forget what's on his mind, as over time his mind will turn to YOU driving him wild ... in reality.

In the future, if he's watching her wash her car in a bikini, you snuggle up behind him & rub his d*** through his pants. Get the idea? Forget the blond - she's just the alcohol that gets him in bed with you.

Extra insurance: as you get to know her stud muffin, you'll also pass on to your hubby all his scary attributes like TKD, shooting, etc. to establish other consequences to any blond reality thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Is he going through a mid-life crisis? How long has your relationship lasted (any threat from the seven-year itch)?

You give a hint when you call him previously-depressed. I think being in a state of depression makes us succumb to anyone's charms.

Anyway, what makes him think that she will be attracted to him? At her age, women tend to be very age-conscious too...Lastly, is this a reflection that your relationship is flagging? It often does, over time... quite normal.

[Asker]

We've only been dating for a year. But he's had a history of having a hard time with women. I don't think the neighbor gives a rats ass about him. I'm thinking it will pass as soon as he figures out she is going to give him the time of day, but that's about it.

[Opinion Owner]

Some guys tend to be highly sexed, and can make a real fool of themselves. I've seen it often. One secret is for a guy to let off steam occasionally through masturbation.

[Anonymous]

Like 99% of girls you blame your guy for YOUR problem. You never saw her but you know he does all these things just to see her and blablabla... Get a grip and stop blaming him.

[Asker]

Why are you so jaded? Why is it MY problem? I know him well enough to know he was hanging around outside working on his car to get a glimpse of her and talk to her. And I finally did see her. Not that hot after all. Like I said below, he said she was hot but it's probably cause she has long blond hair and looks semi hot from a distance...but up close...frightening. And besides, I did say I'm not sure why I'm having anxiety over this. But you chose to attack me.

[Opinion Owner]

lol you poor little victim. Listen to yourself and how you bash her look. See I reflected your blaming game right back at you and you feel attacked. How do you think men feel every time you come to them and tell them they are doing something wrong, huh? You sure are assuming a lot about what your boyfriend does and get pissy about it. Like I said get a grip.

[Asker]

You're just a di**. I didn't bash her look, I just said she wasn't that hot.

[Opinion Owner]

Keep living in your denial. And I'm a d*** just because I tell you the other side of the story and you don't like it. If you can't handle that don'tcome and act a question on here my dear.

[Asker]

If you read the other comments on here, your opinion is in the minority. You did not say one thing constructive, you just attacked me. However at this point, I don't really care to hear your female bashing. I'm guessing you don't have a girlfriend if you think 99% of the women out there blame their guy for their problems, whatever that means.

[Opinion Owner]

There are 4 answers total, statistics don't apply to such a small sample girl. You feel attacked and I'm telling you it's how lots of guys feel into relationships and I gave you sone of your own medicine. Your knee jerk reaction proves how hard it is to stomach. You are the only one having used an insult by the way. But again you are the victim of course. You now make (false) assumption about my relationship status to try to make me feel insecure. I tell you to your face without insultwhat you're doing