My girlfriend swears she has never fantasized about another guy

[Anonymous]

i know this is silly. I know I shouldve never even asked the question. me and my girlfriend have been together for a year. in complete honesty, she is the most loyal person I have ever known. I know that she never has/will cheat on me. I keep her more then satisfied. And she does for me too. But the thing is I fantasize about other girls al the time, and I know that is completely human. I would never act on it, and its competely harmless. But she is a human too, and I feel like EVERYONE does it, and of course she's going to tell me she never has. But it is literally eating me up. I hate the idea of it. and ill never be able to get her to admit it.when I ask, she says "you don't fantasize do you? then why would oyu think I would?" I feel like she asks that question because she knows that I won't admit to it either so it protects her from having to tell me. I know this is hypocritical but I just need to know the truth. girls please tell me the truth here is she not being honest about that

[Royalcrown]

I hate that girls think that all guys think about other girls and it's not true. I have been in my relationship 4 years and I only see the beauty in her and no one else. However I'm faced with a similar issue as you. I made a twitter 3 monthes ago and she has had one and I was browsing around and came across multipul posts saying all these guys are sexy and how she would do things to them and so I asked her about out. She lied and said she was quoting what her friends said. I knew it was a lie, but I wanted to believe it. 2 monthes later I pushed the issue and she admitted to all of it. I felt horrible. I feel that I spoiled her calling her beatiful and and buying her things all the time. Talking to her about her feelings and supporting her on things that are important to her. I try spicing up things in the bedroom aswell. As far as I know she likes what I do to her. I take time with her at times I have to get her fully aroused and other times we dive into I because she's more then ready. Its like there's no passion with her anymore. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. And by the way It doesn't matter if they are thinking about a celeb or not. If she's acting bored of you even if you try as hard a you can and thinking of ANY guy there is an issue. If she looks at you as the one that she wants an needs to spend the rest of her life with, but thinks of other guys, she doesn't know what it's like to be fully inlove. Girls talk sh*t about guys on this topic because they are not fully in love and they can disagree all they want, but truth be told being in love is looking at that special person with such excitement and passion and lust and happiness and trust and feeling not that you want to be with them, but you need to be with them. Guys get a beating because self rightous girls don't know what its like to be in love or they have been cheated on so obvously every guy must be a pig. And before I have every girl on here bitching, stop and think if you claim to love each other so much why do you need to think of someone else to make you aroused if your partner is so great. so sum it ALL up in one word. SELFISH.

[Missme88]

Look, she could be telling the truth! Some people say that everyone fantasizes but I think everyone is different. Personally, I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and I never fantasize about other men. My boyfriend is amazing and he satisfies me on every level, I just don't feel the need to think of anyone else. When I was single, I would look at men and fantasize a lot, but I have changed and now I don’t even care about other men anymore. It is not because I would feel guilty to do so, it is simply because I don’t need to. Whenever I think about sex, my boyfriend is the only thing that’s on my mind. Maybe it is weird and maybe some people won’t believe it, but there are women who don’t feel any attraction for anyone but their lover. And I believe some men are also like that, they just don’t dare to admit it because they feel stupid.
But anyway, you should not blame her if she does desire other men, because you fantasize about other women! You cannot judge her or be jealous for something that you do, it doesn’t make any sense. Just leave it alone and move on.

[zombiefood]

I have never fantasized about anyone except my boyfriend. Period.

I love him, he is the most handsome, sexy, kind, amazing person in the world and I don't know WHY I'd want to think about any one else. He's all I need to get turned on.

Don't doubt her for a second, I promise you. If she watches p*rn and you're worried about that, just know that she's only watching it to get ideas. I know I do sometimes watch it when I get stuck on what to think about or need ideas. But I always picture my boyfriend, us together doing that thing, not somebody else.

Why would I want anyone else? I love him with all my heart, he is perfect to me.

[Anonymous]

It varies from girl to girl, so you can't know for sure if she's telling the truth, or lying to protect your ego.

But seriously, get the f*** over it. You're being irrational and hypocritical and you know it. The only thing that will make you feel better is if she truly doesn't fantasize about other guys, but there's no way for you to know for sure what goes on in her head. And if she does fantasize about other guys, whether she owns up to it or not, it's going to bother you too.

You trust her. You have a fulfilling sex life. This should be a non-issue.

[IsabellaJamie]

I was just thinking about this jsut a while ago. Okay so here it goes.

Back than I did fantisize about other guys even when I was in a realtionship. I had not experienced sex yet. Now that I am in a good serious relationship and in true love. To be mroe than 100% I have not fantisized about anyone else besides my loving partner. I don't know know does that help?

And fantisizing sexually or in other ways?

[vmw2008]

Everyone fantasizes, and you're just going to hurt each other by talking about it. I mean you said yourself you fantasize about other women all the time, so you can either remember that it's harmless when she does it too, or try to stop yourself from fantasizing so that you have a case lol otherwise YES you are being hypocritical.

[sandyboo]

i don't know why you have to ask her about it in the first place -its just like "if there is another much better guy appears and treat you like a diamond princess, if you have a chance to choose, which one you will pick?" I guess you just over react on something not happening, avoid the argument and heartache, stop asking silly questions and move on

[Anonymous]

It's natural for everyone to fantasize about others but lots of people men and women suppress it. Either out of guilt or societal pressure, etc. She might very well be telling you the truth or she is lying just like you. I don't know, only she does.

You need to find a way to let it go.

[xoxoamandaxoxo]

EVERYONE fantasizes some time or another, I'm sure she's just denying it to spare your feelings, don't worry about it though, if you trust her, I'm sure she won't act on it!

[Anonymous]

If she says she never did I would believe her, The thing is I have fantasized about other guys and my boyfriend says he never fantasized about other girls- but I believe him. Maybe you are hornier than she is

[want2helpout84]

I don't know. She's your special lady not ours. Only you would know!

GL!