What does it mean when a guy says he needs time?

[ashley25]

when he was so into me like 4 day ago what changed? Do you think he might be seeing someone else?

[Anonymous]

Im wondering the same question.
My boyfriend just recently broke up with me.
He randomly told me he "loves me, but isn't in love with me anymore". The next day he said he missed me and loved me. Left me with lots of mixed emotions. Told me he's stressed, lost, sad and curious. Not sure what he ment.
He told me It wasn't about another girl or girls.
That it was about if we should be together.
Told me that we lost our way of communication and that he sucks at communicating. & that I turned munipulative.
I asked if he loved me he said yes.
I asked if he thinks about me he said I'm always on his mind.
I asked if he feels like he messed up, but he replied" yes.. and no. So got me confused there.
I texted him saying k I'm needing to know what to do with my life. I either A move on and delete you and forget and erase everything. Or B you just need time to figure it all out.
He replied I just need time I might be starting a job tomorrow.
I haven't talked to him since he told me that he needs time. What should I do? I'm pregnant with his second baby. I'm stressing and I love him, but im very upset about him breaking up with me we we're together for five years. & already have one kid and another coming in feb. Any Advice from a man or guy.. would be amazing.

[nursingstdnt09]

It means exactly what it says...yea it sucks and it is a very vague answer, but you just have to trust that he knows what he is talking about. Sometimes they come back, sometimes they dont. But the best thing you can do is respect his needs. Things will only get worse if you try to work it out before he is ready to. Depending on the guy, it may be another girl (in my case it usually is). But maybe he has been feeling this way for a while and has been putting on a front until he came to a conclusion. This has happened to me too, which is shitty of the guy to just drag it out and make things worse for you. But like I said, give it time..maybe you need time also to think about the relationship and see it without all of the sugar coating..I hope this helps!

[rachiee]

It sounds like you guys were moving to fast. Either you both together, or that you were moving too fast on him and he wants you to give him space. You should tell him that he can have his space and then stop talking to him. If he sincerly likes you then he'll come back around, but if not then there's plenty of guys out there.

[lilnurse2010]

When my boyfriend told me he needed time to himself, he was really just spending that time with another girl behind my back. Everybody told me that was what it meant and I didn't listen because I wanted to trust him. Your best bet is to move on as hard as that might be...

[palek]

Whether he's seeing someone else or not, almost always, when someone says they need time, it's time to move on. If I were you, I'd put him totally out of my life, and move forward. If he loves you, he'll come back fast. Just don't contact him at all, and let it fall where it will. As my ex was fond of saying, "It is what it is". I used to tell her, I'd rather think "It is what we make of it", but that's just me. Always lookin' for blue sky in a rainstorm. All the best.

[ObliqueStrategies13]

Does he need time to do his income taxes?

Or does he mean time away from you?

He needs time for what?

Did you ask what he meant?

[Shlei3]

Simply put: he needs space from you. That doesn't necessarily mean he's mad at you, is cheating on you, doesn't want you or anything like that. It could be he is stressed and needs some thinking and breathing room.

[J_crash]

He could be wanting time to think about a decision that he is getting ready to make, it could be positive or negative, but I'm certain is centered around you.

[AJtogo]

I need time, I need space...it all means go away.