Why does it seem like every girl is taken already?

[Anonymous]

I mean when I see a girl I like it seems like she is already with a guy or at least I always see her with the same guy so I would assume why is that. I mean It is hard enough to talk to girls as it is.

[tex151]

haven't you heard the saying if you assume something your only making as ass of yourself, well that's exactly what your doing, your assuming. Did you ever consider just walking over to her and talking to her, she may or may not have boyfriend but who cares if she does then move on, but there are tons of women out there that are single, if you don't see a ring they're fair game.

[Salarial]

It only seems that way.

I've had guys tell me they never asked me out because they assumed I was in a relationship, which is not the case. I suppose it is assumed that girls/guys who are decent people would be snatched up, but that is no true. It's because of all these assumptions that some of us girls remain single. D:!

[Thomasjay23]

You're part of the problem though. See, this is proof on why women are entitled brats. You say us men assuming this is why y'all are single. Ummm, how about approaching us for a change? Why do us men have to do all the work and all the talking? Exactly. Women are the reason why women are single. Also we assume this because women are less approachable then guys. Women have this snarky, intimidating, "don't bother me" half the time when we're around you so we're like fuck it she doesn't want to be bothered. We don't want to risk looking like fools by saying what's up and then the girl assuming we're just trying to get inside your pants and don't like when us guys say hello, you women automatically get this alert in your brain like "yup this guy is a dog and probably wants to screw me right now", like get over yourself. It's very ironic that men are more approachable then women and more friendly on a social level yet women expect us men to be the one's to approach y'all.

[ivarei]

that's bull, we're not all taken haha. you just don't pay any attention to the girls who are single. you notice the girls you can't have and not the ones you can.

[Asker]

Well I guess it does not matter much girls are too hard to talk to anyways.

[ivarei]

That's not true, most girls would be happy to have a guy show some interest in them! I know I would =P I feel the same way about guys, I've liked a few guys recently and never had the courage to talk to any of them...

[Asker]

But why would it seem to me that girls are hard to talk to.

[twilightfan123]

You're obviously shy, but there are a lot of people like that so don't let it get to you. You'll break out of your shell eventually.

[Asker]

I should have come out of my shell already I am 19 and talking to girls is still very hard for me to do I get so nervous I can't do anything about it.

[faberfan]

Message me and I'll help you get over being shy. No really, I can help. Your choice though.

[redheadbabygirl]

we're not all taken...the problem is people ASSUME we're all taken.

[faberfan]

This! That's the problem a lot of us guys have. We see a pretty girl and we automatically assume she must be taken, so we don't bother. And that's a shame. I think if we made an attempt at being friends first, then a lot more girls would actually be taken. That's what I do at least.

[redheadbabygirl]

Perfect! thanks for the comment.

[Asker]

It seems like you are though when you always have guys around you.

[redheadbabygirl]

Well, for the sake of the argument, I have lots of male friends but no boyfriend... the only way to know for sure is to ask! We don't bite....

If you're too scared to do that, friend her on facebook and check her relationship status there. Keep in mind that that isn't always fool-proof though.

[NMMan]

That is exactly the mistake a lot of guys make - the assumption that an opportunity to meet someone new isn't there has probably stopped many prospective relationships from even being started.