How do I get over a long-distance crush?

[missdeboerxx]

I've lived in the Netherlands for fifteen years, so I know practically everybody in my hometown. I've lived in Arizona for almost a year-and-a-half now, so I don't know that many people yet. Five weeks ago I went on homeleave to visit my friends and family there. In Arizona, I know this guy B. who I'm in the 'pre-dating' phase with. But after 2 weeks in the Netherlands my best friend introduced me to the identical twin brother of this superhot guy she kissed. They are incredibly good-looking, but the guy my best friend kissed, D. is not really my type when it's about character. But then my BFF and D. introduced me to J. the indentical twin brother, he is sweet, funny, intelligent, and very very charming. We kissed the evening we met (we were at a bbq, and we were drunk) and I kind of started to really like him. I didn't want to get my hopes up because I thought it was a drunken mistake from his side. My BFF 'questioned' him, and she and D. told me that he really liked me. J and I met up 3 times more, and we kissed all these times. he told me I was smart en pretty and he made me feel so special. The evening I left for the airport, he called me drunk, and told me to not be sad to go back to Arizona, and to live life to the fullest while I'm there and to date nice guys, BUT if I were to move back to the Netherlands (which I plan on doing in a year) I had to be single... Now I think I'm starting to fall in love with him, but I don't want to get my hopes up, in case the moving doesn't continue, or he meets a really nice new girl and doesn't want me. What do I do? How do I get over him?

[happychic12]

I am in the same boat, I was seeing this guy for a few months just casual sex with 1 or 2 dates few movies at his place etc he told me he was moving away at some stage I was a little disappointed because I had developed feelings towards him. We had great chemistry but the day came and he moved away I chosenot to see him that weekend because I wanted to forget him and I kinda did there for a bit but he began talking to me again n saying sorry we couldn't be a couple. I said don't worry It's pointless saying that. Before we New it we started talking again, I has suspicious thoughts he was just bored but he Said he didn't realise what he had till he left. We discussed meeting and feelings but the chat has slowed down a lot now and I am left with him on my mind again when he has obviously found entertainment of whatever. Sometimes long distance is long distance is for a reason. I believe in fate and there is someone out there that will call you pretty and beautiful and kiss even better you just have to accept as I do too.

[Verysadgirl789]

I'm in the same boat I saw a cute guy tonight at the football game and he said do u remember me I said no he pointed to his friend and said u use to date him I said his friends cute but I knew he would be gross out of I said I liked him but he also said can I have a hug and I said sure so I hug him and he said see ya but he's from mount Carmel so now I won't ever see him again I think u should just stop sleep and I think u should cry and move on if u can

[coolbreeze]

I think you can get over your crush by just trying to forget about him and not think about him.It will be very hard. But I think you can do it. If you keep running into him then maybe something can come out of it. But like you said you don't want to get your hopes up high.