Is it normal if your boyfriend normally doesn't contact you daily when you're in a long distance relationship?

[lovelivelaugh_s2]

Question says it all! What are your opinions? Thanks in advance!

[kholland65]

It depends on what works for the couple. My sister had a 3 year long distance relationship (he was away at college). They only talked a few times a week.

Here is the thing you have you understand. Men and women are different when it comes to communication and there requirements for it. Women bond through communication with their partner. Its the reason women love to text and talk on the phone with their BF's. This however, does nothing for men. Frankly its quite boring, especially over the phone. Deep conversation doesn't really get our heart pumping. Physical touch and closeness does. We could quite literally be satisfied just sitting next to you and saying nothing, as long as we are near you. This is also why guys actually like cuddling and holding hands more than women do (surprise surprise!). We bond through physical touch. I'm not making this up either, I've read studies on the subject.

That being said, Most guys would usually be fine talking to you a couple of times a week, some less, some more. I personally would say some texting here and there, and maybe a phone conversation once or twice a week. The problem is women want all this constant contact but too much contact and I run out of things to talk about. If I'm texting you the play by play of my day, then there is never anything to talk about.

[DebiPie]

Well, there's talk, and then there's talk. I don't think most men get bored talking with their woman that often. If they do, then they have found the wrong one. Something to think about. Yes, men aren't as into it as women, but studies do show that men want good communication with their partner.

[kholland65]

Who doesn't, I'm just saying it isn't as entertaining for men as it is for women. It's just not as stimulating. That being said, talking with my Girlfriend isn't going to curb my longing for her. If I miss her, I want to be with her in person, not talk to her on the phone. Unless I have something really important to say, I'll just wait until we see each other again to talk in person. Obviously its a bit different for long distance relationship.

[HeroOfVillains]

With my girlfriend I talk daily but obviously somedays I can't get online because I might be too busy to Skype. Skyping is so easy though, it is really lame if the dude doesn't at least send you a messege or something. I guess if he is not too serious then he might not contact daily. The truth though is even if you are busy, I mean I assume he works in an office or something, you should be able to spare 15 min to open up your email or IM someone you love.

[Anonymous]

Well I don't know if you will take this answer seriously since I am only 17 but my long distance relationship was with my moms best friends son which I have known him my whole life he moved to fl I live in ny and we would visit him and his family all the time and eventually we started a relationship eventually after the first couple months he wouldn't respond to my messages for weeks on end then say hey like 3 weeks later like it was no big deal and always said he was busy when I got the scoop from my mom because she would talk to his mom from time to time(they didn't know we were dating ) I broke up with him two months ago because the serious lack of communication I mean I tried to fix it and so did he but it didn't work

so basically I will say this if you talk to him and work it out (if he responds) then go for it I mean you could be hey like if he doesn't text or call or email me after a week then we have to end it or consider ending it because I know I felt like I was annoying him even though I sent like one message a day. It depends how long he leaves you unanswered...now that I babbled I don't know if this helped!?

[DebiPie]

IDK if there is an exact formula for this, or if it should be the boyfriend who should do the contacting. I was in a ldr for a year and a half and yes, he called daily. It was nice too. Actually, he'd text good morning, and maybe something later on at lunch or even call if something came up. But he'd call every night and we'd talk for at least an hour, usually two. Communication is key in a ldr.

[enlightened]

i guess its a little weird. decent levels of communication are necessary. at least he should WANT to call once a day to talk to u, to know how you r...I mean people generally willingly call their boyfriend/girlfriend at least once a day. no one has to tell them to do that

[Freetobe007]

I'd think it's a little strange. I've been in a LDR before and being so far away always made me feel a need to put in that extra effort to communicate and spend time with each other. It's different when you're with someone face to face and you guys don't contact each other daily, but when it's long distance, it's like te bond needs every extra bit of care and attention it can get

[PoeticNinja]

Hmm, not really. Since, it's LDR - It would be nice to have a text/phone call everyday, even if it's just saying good morning/night and him letting you know that he's thinking about you. (Vice versa)

Or he has to have REALLY good reason for not contacting you.

[Prof_Don]

Imo, it depends on what he is doing.

He can be so busy...that he may be able to contact you everyday and be fully coherent. In that case, would you want him to call you when he could be falling asleep on the phone? :-P

If you want him to talk to you more, make sure you bring that up with him. Don't be confrontational; just calmly say that you want to hear his voice more often. :)

[Lett0385]

I think that in every relationship weather is a long distant relationship or not you should be able to talk to your Boyfriend everyday even if its just for a little bit of time

[DanteSparda]

well , my girlfriend lives in canada but yeah it's not necessary for you to text everyday . I usually text her in about 3-4 days , otherwise she would think I'm being needy LOL ( joking :P )

[Konnour]

It's normal, however if you don't contact at least once a week then you can say there might be a problem.

[enlightened]

once a week!

[gonyr]

usually our schedules don't mix but I definitely try to talk at least once a day

[jennathegreat]

what kind of guy wouldn't at least say hi to you your beautiful!

[irykiryk]

I wouldn't think so. Sometimes he may have things on his mind.

[Anonymous]

Normal? Not really. I'd think he'd at least say hello, how are ya, hope you have a good day.

[ashtonm]

I think it's nice. It lets me know my mate can be independent. don't like clingy ish.

[kysalle]

Depends on what you two agreed on for communication.

[toulouse]

greed. typo. "Agreed".

...hmm funny. never noticed agreed, is greed with an A. Perhaps to mean , outside of greed. As in not coveting as your own, but _sharing_ an opinion.

Anyways , yeah, I agree. you guys discuss what the set up s, falling outside of that, is not appropriate, but what that is, ill depend on what you mutually decide. Every relationship, is different.

[RikkiTikkiTavi]

Yeah that's normal

Once a week though should be minimum

[Lett0385]

Once a week? That's not normal she should talk to him everyday !

[kholland65]

umm no.

[RikkiTikkiTavi]

well apparently its not normal then sue me

[Flux30]

No not at all. Unless he is in the military and is not allowed. Other than that you two should talk at least 30 min a day.

[mx518]

Like "kysalle" said, depends on what you two agreed to. Also depends on how busy you two are. There's always Skype, Facebook, AIM, texting, etc ..

[vmaj807]

Talking to a person every single day is boring

Keep space

[Zodiac988]

My, you have lovely breast.

[Anonymous]

If he's cheating on you, yes, very normal