Which man do I choose?

[kittykarnage4u]

me and my boyfriend lived together for many years and were always really happy, although deep down I knew I never wanted to marry him, but he took such good care of me and made me happy. He started to push me away emotionally by putting me down all the time and calling me names like 'parasite' and I felt unloved. We stopped having sex and I felt very lonely. I met someone else and we fell in love but I was scared to leave my boyfriend because everyone told me he was good for me and my parents wanted me to stay with him. My boyfriend found out about it but stayed with me, but said I needed to choose who I wanted or he would make me homeless. For a whole year all I could think about was the man I fell in love with, he had asked me to marry him and to move in with him, but I ended it because I felt the right thing to do was what my parents wanted and stay with my boyfriend. Now I'm miserable and lonely, I miss having someone to hold and kiss, when I'm with my boyfriend all I can think about is the man I'm in love with, but I know if I leave him I will miss him too and I'll lose my home, my cat, my possessions and I would have to move away from my family. Help!

[Anonymous]

This story really annoys me. We often already know the answer to an emotional question but we just don't want to face it. In this case you need to leave both of these muppets, as no1 is emotionally abusive and no2 wants control over your life. The first guy sounds incredibly immature for using all sorts of threats and emotional blackmail tricks to control you. As for no2 if he was genuine he would deal with a long distance relationship not try to isolate you from friends and family. Get out, get a flat of your own and be single for a year or so. Learn to love yourself, live on your own and then look for someone as an equal. If you need a man for cash he will want to be repaid somehow.

[keka11]

leave the boyfriend, you're age is around 30 it's time for you to grow up an start taking care of yourself, you can't listen to what your parents want but listen to what you want because your parents aren't going to be the ones living with him and your parents aren't the ones that aren't happy with their boyfriend, plus your parents love you and I'm sure if you told them how you really feel they would support you because I'm sure they want their daughter to be happy, question: do you still talk to the guy you love or did you loose all contact with him after you rejected his proposal?

[Mizzy95]

I wouldn't be with man that called me a parasite. No one deserves that sort of treatment. Be with the man you love, the guy that treats you with kindness and respect. Don't let opinions and material things get in the way o your happiness.

[Luvergiirl]

You should be with the man you love, the boyfriend will understand,don't let family affairs get in the way.I'm sure you friends and family want you to be happy just explain the situation to them.Hope I Helped!

[dmnyel]

maybe it wouldn't hurt by chosing you. healing some of hurt you have know and loving yourself before attempting a relationship. I know I wouldn't want someone I was in love with to ever think they were a rebound ether and in your case it would come up some how.build your confidence and then tackle that man