I don't necessarily think its overrated. I know I'd be lying if I said I wasn't happier while in a relationship. I subscribe to the notion that humans are their core are very primal in nature, meaning men and women are meant to be together. We're naturally driven to want to have sex with and be in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender (of course unless you are gay, then its the same gender). It's no different than our need to eat and sleep.
Obviously everyone has different levels of drive when it comes to certain aspects of life. Some people like sleeping more than others, some have higher sex drives that others, some have bigger appetites. The point is while I believe everyone needs (yes I'll go as far as using the word need) to be in a relationship, each individuals drive or level of need is different. Some people can be single, want to be in a relationship, but at the same time not be bothered by the fact that they are single, if a relationship crossed there path, they would gladly take it, but outside of that, they don't spend much time and energy trying to get one. On the flip side, there are people to whom their drive to be in a relationship is so great that it basically dictates how they live there life.
Like anything, being to extreme in either direction I think is bad. I think a lot of peoples preferences towards this can be altered by the way they were raised, and their previous experience with relationships. Someone who has had poor relationships, might have a more negative view of them and as a result has no drive to be in one. Vice verse, someone who has experienced true love, might go crazy trying to find it again, because like a drug, they are constantly searching for the next fix of the love drug.
Yea it's overrated. Id rather date and f*** random hot girls than settle for just one bitch who will possibly start treating me like sh*t down the road.
No. It sounds like you're just jaded and indulging in self-pity.
I prefer to remain idealistic because it's more fun this way. Falling in love with someone is one of the most exhilarating experiences. It's something that affects you entirely. Your whole being--physically, mentally, emotionally--is feeling it. The tenderness you feel toward them, the adrenaline rush you get by their proximity, the feeling of being so invested in someone other than yourself. And let's be honest here, the raging lust is pretty awesome. It's like having an intravenous injection of pure happy. If a guy doesn't feel the same way, I still get delirious off the stuff. Even if it's not romantic, the care and consideration you'd feel toward a friend or relative is beautiful. The pleasure of helping them, being there for them, knowing them, the mutual respect--all great stuff. We are social creatures by nature. If you remained entirely alone you'd probably be miserable. Unless you were some sort of enlightened Buddhist monk doing a hermitage, which I doubt you are.
If you haven't felt that, then maybe you're a little too self-centered. If you just haven't FOUND that, perhaps all you need is to change your search methods. And maybe change your circle of friends.
Yes it is overrated, too many say to me "Oh... why don't you have a boyfriend? why are you single?" as if I NEED a man... lol she don't know what I need... so I hate it when people ask me these things and they ask you do you like this person, do you like this person as if I'm that desperate and people these days try to rush everything, I only listen to myself because nobody else knows what I need and most people just eff things up and make me look an ass that help when they have no clue your not supposed to be rush. They think rushing it will decrease chances of being "friend zoned" and the totally just panic all the time, guys who have showed me interest are the same as if I'm gonna lose interest when I never had any interest to start with, they already made me feel uneasy enough with their pushing and acting so anxious urgh... that is why it's overrated because people can't just hook us up with anyone and most of the time people try to stick us with total losers while they go after the real men, they are so selfish. Just so things when YOUR ready and don't let anyone push you into doing things that your heart is not currently into, if they try to just tell them your not that desperate and you don't need someone to feel happy thanks lol.
Well I am half for half.
I feel a good portion of the time you will come across people who aren't worth it/will just hurt you/ insert another similar negative
I think some people jump into relationships WAY to quickly, most based on phyiscal attraction alone
I think people should really really take their time in getting to know someone if they are seeking a relationship before they get into one and don't ignore any red flags
I feel people should be more upfront about what they want and when red flags appear say bye bye.
Im the type of person that thinks you should be ready for a relationship because they are work, they take up a good portion of your life and really know the person.
A friend of mine has had 7 boyfriends in 4 years, jumps into them one after the other than complains when things fizzle out when X or Y happens. She doesn't really take the time to get to know them.
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I realized last night that I am probably going to die single because, besides the fact that no one has ever said they liked me, I don't think I'd be a good mate. I burden people too much when I am open with them, and a romantic relationship naturally calls for openness.
I'm not really bothered. It's actually more reassuring. My future is a bit clearer because I only have to worry about myself..
Congrats on figuring out you can't get a girlfriend. I still don't know why I couldn't ever get a boyfriend.
I don't think love is overrated persay but I do think people place too much importance on it. People looked at me strangely when I told them I had no friends (for about 2 years, I didn't make friends, purposefully). But I got along fine. I think people just think life should work a certain way, but that outline actually doesn't work for everybody.
Yeah. Relationships are fun, but to me they're not worth sacrificing your whole life for. I'm fine on my own, but having someone to do things with is nice. It really depends on what kind of person you are. If you're emotionally-driven, love will be a big deal to you. If you're thought/cognitively driven, strong emotions like love generally don't factor much into the decision-making process. The media brainwashes us into thinking "love is all you need" but in the end, it's a foolish notion. The characters in movies & on TV don't have to deal with long-term real-life practicality & their behavior reflects it. No one who's been in a long-term real relationship will ever compare it to a movie because there's unpleasant aspects of real life that fictional characters just never deal with.
Relationships should improve life for both people; if they don't, don't have them. Seems quite simple to me.
There's an entire movement in Japan based on this, at least of what I've heard. I believe it's called the "Vegetarian's" movement or something.
Basically, it's guys around High School or College age who swear by independence from women, at least sexually. I think they still date, but they don't initiate it. I think it was started to prove a point, that men don't NEED to be admired by women to be happy, and that they can discover this by simply refusing to start relationships.
In a way, it also took initiation and turned it around on women, which I think is a bigger deal in Japan, since the couples dropped drastically because the women still expected men to take the initiative.
But there's also MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) which I think follows some of the same principles. This is also why most monks take oaths of celibacy.
Yes, the media puts too much emphasis on having constant relationships, break-ups, and involvement with many people at once.
For most ordinary non-movie stars, life isn't going to be like that. I agree, try to play it cool and not make 'advances' to women all the time. Let things happen more organically, naturally, over time, starting with casual conversantions rather than dates.
You won't have to go very long without finding someone you'll want to spend time with. Not everyone will find a life partner, so don't obsess over it! Especially at your age!
I would say yeah, but than again I'm only 17. 6months ago was when I got my first boyfriend. Before guys were just something I observed from afar. I would basically just admire a cute guy from afar and go about my day, people would ask me out and I would turn them down.. I honestly wasn't looking for "love" I enjoyed being by myself. Now that I have a boyfriend it's nice to have someone to talk to, be somewhat sexual with, I'm still a virgin. But honestly there's nothing special about it for me. He makes me feel good at times, he basically seems like a friend with benefits. I speak and act with him ways I wouldn't normally act with my friends. I mean this in the nicest way I really do care about my boyfriend though.
I think you're just going through a phase and especially since it's Valentine's Day these feelings have heightened. It is normal for us to feel like we could live our entire lives without being loved, but won't you feel lonely? Won't you feel like you're missing out on sharing your life with someone who really gets you and lives solely to make you happy?
i lived for 28 years, that I don't think I must need relationship. cause I have many things to do, it helps me forget about that. today I valentine day, I spend all my time in my routinity. nothing special happen. I think its my time is still not coming yet, maybe I need to wait a couple years. just have fun with friends.
Love and Relationships are so NOT overrated. It's just our programming as humans. We feel love and we want to express it with the one person or people we feel for it. And you can't just assume no woman likes you man, the first person or second or even fifth person your with isn't always the one. a woman loves certain qualities in men. The BIGGEST ones are his: PERSONALITY (TOPS), WALLET (IF YOURE BROKE DON'T EXPECT MUCH) AND HIS SINCERITY AND COMMITMENT. If you are a commited person with a good personality, any woman will fall for you. Just keep looking and you'll find the one.
I have the impression that you've been betrayed or disrespected by girls one too many times and are thinking of closing yourself off. I would advise against closing yourself off, because if you do manage to come across a good girl who likes you, you will make her feel undesirable, as other girls have probably already done to you. It's a common, recurring cycle in our society nowadays, I see it all the time.
I don't think love (true love) is overrated at all. If you find someone who you truly have a special bond with there is no better feeling in the world. However, just because love is an amazing thing that doesn't mean you couldn't be happy without it. In fact you should be able to be happy without it, I think a lot of people are too dependent on relationships.
I feel this way at the moment; mainly because I loved someone and when nothing happened I moved on and couldn't feel anything for anyone so now what makes me happy is having women check me out I will never talk to regardless her attractiveness.
Everyone has a need to be loved, naturally as a human. It's not a solution, it's a temporary state of being and state of mind to make you feel better at this time, it will pass.
I thought so from Age 3 to 21...Perhaps in a decade or two...I'll go back to thinking they are a waste of time.. and you will think there is value in them ^^
Welcome to the club my friend! So long as I get my d*** wet occasionally, I couldn't give a monkey's a**hole about rerashunsh*ts.
Eh, I'm indifferent.
If I have it - wonderful, enjoying it
If I don't have it - wonderful, enjoying it
There are advantages to being in a relationship and there are advantages to being single :-)
I have a feeling the grass is always greener on the other side...
Not at all. We need to fall in love eventually. Its human nature.
I agree...I've been feeling like that a lot lately...it is overrated at times
I was just thinking about this. And I agree, I don't want t fall in love.
The way movies describe it makes it seem that way.But everyone deserves to be loved and in return captable of loving another human being.
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